How You Can Have an Incredible Day

If you are ready for a game-changer in your life, take time daily to show gratitude and appreciation. The Universe LOVES gratitude!!! How are you taking advantage of how this tool can amp up your life and desires?

  • November is the perfect month to begin adding tidbits of thanks to your life.
  • It’s easy to be grateful for a great Thanksgiving meal.
  • Add a little spice to it and share appreciation for all the people who made that possible for you.
  • Use a gratitude journal each day.

William Ward shares, “God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say “thank you?”

You can attract whatever you desire with gratitude and appreciation. The way to change your world is to find things in your life in which you are grateful. What you appreciate expands.

I remember years ago when I first learned about using gratitude I was going through my divorce. My mind was so hardened and I was bitter, I couldn’t even think of things to be grateful for in my life. So embarrassing. I had SO MUCH to be grateful for because I had wonderful children, a great job, friends, a beautiful house and a great supportive family, etc.

Where could you use this month of Thanksgiving to show more gratitude and appreciation and not be like me that couldn’t even see it before my eyes?

Who would be three (3) people you could show some appreciation and gratitude for? Take some time to write them a note or email and let them know how they make a difference for you. Then notice, what an incredible day you have made!

Share with me below ways your life has changed because of receiving or giving thanks.

How Can You Be Curious Rather Than Thinking You Need To Know The Answer?

I love asking questions.

I love hearing what people say about how things are going and how their lives are working.

Then, I become curious. I wonder about possibilities and what’s creating their way for them.

Out of this whole big world, what have they picked out as right for them?

Why did they choose this time and place to be here?

I remember how shocked I was when I realized everyone’s life was not like my military growing up, moving all the time, facing new situations and adapting to wherever we were.

As a kid, you only know what you are living. Until you leave home and start seeing a whole new world, people from completely different worlds.

When you start questioning. When you become curious.

And, hopefully, you have.

I know I was quite judgmental. If they weren’t in “our” church and faith, they were on the “wrong” side. If it wasn’t like “my” family and ways, something wasn’t right.

Whew, how limited I was.

Instead of realizing, each of us has our own journey and way of making meaning of the life we were given.

But, thankfully, curiosity got the best of me.
I could be inquisitive.

I could see how these wonderful people just had a “different” way to do life than I did. Not bad or good.

I can see your choices will be different from mine, and that is fine because you are living your life and doing what’s right for you.

I could see how there were endless possibilities of living our lives.

Notice where you have some habits, assumptions, and thoughts about major aspects of your life, such as education, parenting, relationships, or success.

How can you be curious about those ideas instead of set-in-stone thoughts and ways of being?

How could you allow life to be more in the flow rather than stick to the old ways and old patterns?

Can you be curious and see how the old rules are no longer working or how there is no need for them today? For instance, I think about how dressed up we used to be on airplanes. Think of today’s dress on airplanes. Totally different ends of what was and what is.

I know it’s taken me a while to adjust. I remember writing in my book how hard it was to wear my workout clothes to the grocery store almost next door. Not today.

Move to a new paradigm in how you live in life or live life. Allow it to be easy and flowing rather than rigid and based on old rules.

Use Abraham-Hick’s idea as a way to be more curious than stuck, “Cravings are going to occur to you. So here’s the rule of thumb about eating, or about investing in the stock market, or about anything else: If the impulse comes from a joyous thought that feels good, follow it. If the impulse comes from an uncomfortable thought that felt bad, don’t follow it.”

Where do you need to begin to be more curious? What rules are you living that no longer serve you, make life tougher or out of balance?

I know the saying, “You don’t teach an old dog new tricks,” but let’s let that go.

Be curious.

Be willing to live life fully with what’s here and now for you.

What’s feeling uncomfortable in your life right now?

Be curious.

Create a new set of habits and rules for you.

For instance, at this age,74, some things are different. I don’t move or bend as easily as I used to. How can I allow that to be okay? How can I honor where I am in life instead of making myself wrong?

How can you take the time to be curious about what’s working and what’s not in your life today – based on where you are, not what was?

How can you be curious and allow today to be the message for what’s right for you rather than thinking you are supposed to know the answer?

Life is short.

Be kind. Be gracious. Be open to what is before you.

Be curious.

What Inspires You To Live Bigger?

Where do you go to get your inspiration? To feel inspired?

Life can be challenging. Life can bring lots of uncertainties and unwanted.

As the Dalai Lama states, “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

Decide that you no longer want to live in the negative drama of what you are now facing and dealing with. Decide there must be another way.

Trust there IS a perfect plan unfolding for you.

The way to receive that is to open your heart and mind to something higher, lighter, and more in the flow.

Look around your life and decide what the 10s are for you. That will help lift up your life. You aim higher.

Take each area of your life – your financial life, your physical life, your emotional life, your mental life, and your spiritual life. Look at what presently gives you a feeling of a 10, a YES, a filled heart and soul. For instance, I love learning. It’s a must for me. I read a variety of things. I listen to podcasts, and I engage in a variety of new things. I mentioned before that Bo and I began learning Spanish with Duolingo this year. It’s inspiring to see how far I’ve, we’ve come. It’s exciting to realize how many new words we’ve learned. I’m on my 358th-day streak. Nearly 1 year, committed and dedicated – for my 10-20 minutes a day. It feels good and very challenging at times. That’s part of the inspiration. To overcome the unknown, the uncertainty of how to speak another language.

Learning inspires me to live bigger.

If something isn’t a 10 but still thrills you, keep it and let that inspire you to make it a 10.

Where’s the light for you? What do you need to reach higher?

How about the story in The Magazine from AARP’s February/March 2024 article about a former entrepreneur, John Foley, who went from man of leisure to muckraking reporter? He talks about how he was apprehensive as a Californian moving East to an unfamiliar town, but how welcoming the town has been. “I really feel like I am making a contribution. Besides, I’m having a wonderful time. I wake up in the morning and can’t wait to go to work.”

How much of your life are you doing what inspires you rather than what you have always done?

Where can you contribute, or where are you contributing that lifts you higher?

Where do you want more freedom? Honor where you are feeling free. Able to do what you want. There’s great inspiration in freedom.

Find areas where you are resistant. Let those areas inspire you to live bigger.

If you really listen to life, the obstacles you encounter are there to help you change course and find a higher and better way. Do not resist, complain, or feel helpless. What if, instead, you trusted your inner power?

What if you could appreciate everything around you, everything you are dealing with at the moment? Appreciate it because God, The Universe, is trying to expand your life. Whether it’s through frustration, curiosity, or you’ve had enough.

Instead of resisting, which gives you more of what you don’t want, what if you could just stop and breathe and notice what is happening without the story or the drama?

What if you could appreciate? Appreciate whatever you can because that changes the vibration, changing the solutions to what will come your way. It’s like receiving texts from girlfriends who want to know if I can walk. I love it! I’m flying higher and excited about the opportunities.

Gratitude is the greatest prayer.

Ask for a bigger heart today.

Love raises your vibration and inspires you to greater heights. Brings more goodness to you.

Look around and find all the ways you can love to bring in more 10s in your life. Love the sunsets, the sunrises, your garden, your walks, the utilities working, your car taking you where you need. If every time you began a new activity, chore, or responsibility, you stopped and appreciated and gave a word of gratitude, you would be living on top of the world. You would be showered with more things to love and adore.

Where are you blessed in your life? For us, our grandkids are such blessings. They bring pure joy to our lives. Look at what one of our 8-year-old grandsons brought Bo as he is recovering from meniscus surgery. Think of how that inspires you to live bigger.

What Inspires You To Live Bigger?

Life is almost making us find a new, more inspiring path, because what is happening right now is not working for far too many people.

What path are you choosing to inspire you to live bigger?

Do You Want To Know What Is Running Your Life?

Look around, and what do you see?

The world is reflecting back to you your thoughts and beliefs that are running your life.

Look around your life and notice what you spend most of your time doing.

Look at your calendar and see what it is full of. That shows you what you are devoted to.

Have you given your life away to an old story you are still living today?

This chapter of my life has been about Thriving in Unretirement. Since that was important to me, I needed to know and understand what that meant to me.

I saw in the research if you aren’t committed to some purpose during this time of life, within 2-5 years, death or some major illness may be at your doorstep. Well, I knew I wanted more than that for my life.

Thus, my purpose was to begin sharing how to THRIVE during this time of life.

A big part of that has been to understand how to be healthy in this stage of life. Because things are different.

Another area was to look at what lights you up, what brings you joy.

Maybe staying unconscious is your choice, but I want more for you. I know your life can be more when you decide to know why your life is operating like it is.

I’ve seen that too many people just let life happen and thus become part of the statistics. Rather than knowing what is running their life.

As Pam Grout says, “Thing 1 is my creative voice. It says things like, “Dance, sing loudly, high five that stranger on the bridge.’” “Thing 2 is my monitor voice. It urges caution and monitors what I could lose.” She has written many books, and I’ve enjoyed listening more to her creative voice.

Which voice do you want to listen to?

Your thoughts focus on the past.

Are you willing to open up for more?

If you don’t know what is running your life and want more for yourself, make it a priority to become healthy – emotionally, mentally, physically, and fiscally. Let health run your life. You will see a whole new world open for yourself. Different classes might show up for you, like Tai Chi or healthy cooking. You might see specials on gym memberships. You might hear about having a more positive attitude about life by seeing how others live longer when they do.

A whole new world opens when you decide what you want to run your life.

Vex King understands why it’s important for you to know what is running your life. It’s so you can find freedom. He says, “Society is constantly challenging your authenticity by telling you who to be and what your life should look like.

Is that what you want? Something or someone else is running your life, and you don’t even realize it.

You do have other choices.

What is running your life?

Lately, I’ve been focused on messages in The Course of Miracles. I’ve done The Course for decades but decided to go deeper this year than just the surface messages. What I want to lead my life is this message from The Course.

Seeing the World Through the Eyes of God.

It has been so fun to pay attention from this perspective. I have a new filter that allows me to see things inward and outward. The sunsets, sunrises, the magical moments. A new book suggestion is Hiring From The Heavens by Jean Slater. It’s exciting because you create your team of masters to work with you for what you’d like or for one-time events. I feel expansive, connected to something bigger.

There’s something bigger, grander happening on my behalf, for me.

It makes me see life is more than going through my day. It’s more fun to notice and smile at how it’s coming alive for me.

Instead of fear running your life, let love guide you. Whew, the world needs that, too. You can use the 15 essential habits for living a good life from Pope Francis’s new book, A Good Life (© 2024), to lead your life.

What about – deciding to allow God’s Will to Be Done? You know what that means? That you accept exactly what is happening.

You can begin seeing how you are trying to control the world.

You can notice how resistant you are to all kinds of things happening in your personal world and the world around you.

You can notice how you are making others wrong – whether that is by them having different opinions than you, different political affiliations, or different religious beliefs.

There are ALL kinds of options to see what could be running your life.

What do you believe is running yours?

The whole notion of realizing that something is running your life opens you to understanding why others do what they do. It also helps you realize how you are being directed a certain way because of past beliefs, thoughts, and the people you surround yourself with.

People are seeing and living the world through their perspective – whether that is from being a capitalist, being a missionary, being retired, or being a parent. That is what leads your life.

Most of us are not awake and are not conscious of what is running our lives.

Decide today to wake up and notice what’s running your life. That’s a huge first step—just notice.

Once you have noticed what is running your life, you can decide if it is what you desire. If life is going like you want, keep it going. Now, it will be a conscious choice. If you’d like something else running your life, ponder what that is. Listen to what you are asking for – like more peace, kindness, or fun. Then, you find ways to add that to your life. Baby steps. You can even ask to “Hire The Heavens.” (Create your dream team.)

Life gives you what you ask for and what you need for your Highest and Greatest good.

Life is more fun and more empowering when you decide and make the choices for what will run your life.

What does that mean for YOUR life?

Let It Go, Let It Be

Relax, relax.

Breathe. Relax. Breathe.

Let that breath go. Release.

Let go of whatever you no longer want.

Allow whatever is before you. Breathe.

How can you let life be rather than thinking you must control life and others?

Think about how easy life could be if you let life be. Realize life is no longer a battlefield, that you don’t have to control everything.

Put yourself in that high-flying energy. Those feelings.

Think about flowing down a river. How you go and maneuver whatever is before you – rocks, debris, or rapids. Notice how some parts of that river you tense up and try to control more. Some parts just flow and move easily.

Think about if you could relax 2% more and let go of control, how your body and life could be different. How the trip down the river could be more fun and peaceful.

And, best of all, you would be trusting more, knowing more that life works out. No matter how it goes.

Notice where you are trying, controlling, and struggling. Start with one of those areas.

Is something going on with your kids that you’d like differently, and are you trying to control what they do?

Are you trying to control circumstances?

Are you trying to be something more thinking that will make you better or worthy?

Are you struggling with external news rather than searching within what messages are there for you?

In each of these scenarios, notice how fear is controlling your life. Let it go.

Where in your life could the message “Let It Go, Let It Be” help you?

Love is the essence of life. Your job is to remove everything that is in the way of you receiving more and more of it.

The Universe is calling you to step up. Let it be.

Life is meant to be lived in the flow of whatever is happening before you.

What are you experiencing?

What roadblocks or logs need to be removed?

Let it go.

Let It Go, Let It Be

Trust something more is there for you – even though you can’t see it yet.

What juncture is calling you to release and let go so your life can open more?

I was walking this labyrinth in Maui, and it reminded me how powerful Nature is to our healing and to letting go.

The more you let go, the more you are able to believe in yourself – the more you honor yourself, the more you trust in yourself, and the more you value all you have to offer.

Where will you let it go and let it be?

How can you let go and help shift the world into a deeper, loving place?

Let your life be easy.

Which Door Are You Choosing?

Life is full of choices.

Notice where you invest your time and energy.

Pay attention to what you value. Take time to look at your calendar and where you are spending most of your time and life.

Make sure it is doing what you love, whether that is time with your family, time with your career, or time playing.

Invest in high-energy things that bring out the best in you.

Stop the “I have to” or “I’ve got to.” And those periods of low-vibration situations.

Yes, there are “responsibilities” that you have, but hold them in the light and think of how they make your life easier and better. If they don’t, it’s time to change how you handle or think about them.

Life is for you when you get yourself in the flow of what is right for you.

Take time to find ways to lift up your life to the Highest for you.

Ponder on these thoughts.

Just notice. Don’t make yourself wrong.

Awareness is the first step to change.

Do you want to thrive, or do you deprive yourself of abundance and all life has to offer you?

Which door are you choosing?

Are you planning for your future, or are you worrying about your future?

Which door do you choose?

Is your world more about expanding or constricting and limiting what you can have and do?

What are you choosing for yourself?

Are you looking at what’s right about the world and your life, or are you seeing all the problems?

Where are you choosing from?

As Jay Shetty shares, “The way you FEEL about yourself is based on the THOUGHTS you CHOOSE to believe about yourself.”

Think about how you feel about yourself.

The way you think about yourself has a major impact on how your life goes.

It’s worth the time to notice the banter inside your head. The beliefs you hold. The things that are making your decisions.

Notice how you speak to yourself when you are in front of a mirror.

Pay attention to the words you use when you are struggling with something.

Think about the limitations you have put on the possibilities for your life. Are you stuck? Or doing what you love and prospering?

What door are you choosing as you speak about yourself? As you believe in yourself?

Everything begins with knowing thyself. Deciding you ARE worth having what you want. You are worthy.

A big shift for me in life is to pay attention to what I like, not what I’m supposed to do or who I need to make sure they are okay.

What do you love? Choose that over and over. And, before you know it, more or most of your life is loving what is, loving your life.

Which Door Are You Choosing?

What door are you choosing?

You always have a choice. It might not feel like it. No matter what is happening or your situation, you can choose how it goes.

More and more I remind myself, I want a life with ease and peace, or ease and grace. I ask, “How can this be easy and…?” It changes my focus. It changes the solutions that come.

Another mantra I use a lot is “I can choose peace instead of this.” It’s from The Course of Miracles.

I am choosing to align all parts of my life with what I desire. With my core values. With what’s right for me at this point in time.

Begin paying attention to the choices you make all day, every day.

Decide what is guiding the choices – is it impulsivity, someone’s needs, or what’s in alignment for you?

Decide what door you want to choose. Notice how you feel.

If you don’t like how that choice feels, choose again and again. Your feelings are the best indicator of the choices you are making. If it feels light, it’s right for you. If it feels heavy, choose again.

Begin this day, this Valentine’s Day, choosing what door is right for you in each situation of your life.

Happy Valentine’s Day

Are You Noticing The Beauty All Around You?

Beauty begins within.

A beautiful mind sees the magic and possibilities of life.

Beauty impacts your energy and your life. Beauty uplifts you.

Where is your focus?

What are you seeing?

Wake up to the beauty around you.

Look around you. Note if you have created a world of beauty in all parts of your life.

Start with your mind. Become aware of the thoughts, messages, and insights you are allowing inside there.

Notice your home. Do you feel the delight, the flow, and the awe-inspiring as you walk around your home – inside and outside?

See yourself in your car. Is it radiating cleanliness, attractiveness, and care?

What about your work environment? Does it sparkle, uplift, and encourage you throughout your day?

Is beauty all around you? Can you see it? Do you FEEL it?

What impact does beauty play in your life?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

We have just finished our time in Maui this year. Our souls and hearts are full – Full from the beauty, the energy, and the love we feel. Even though there has been devastation here, beauty still abounds.

The hopeful spirit is riveting.

The connection and support the people of Maui have for each other is strong.

Are You Noticing The Beauty All Around You?

Take time to create the environment you want. No matter the circumstances you are in.

As Fred Alan Wolf states, “What is “out there” depends on what you choose to look for.”

Adding more beauty can change how you see the world, how you interact with others, and the vibration you live in.

Think about what one change you can make to add more beauty to your life.

Bring more awareness, and you will be delighted to see things you’ve never seen before.

The way the light reflects on something.

A lizard crossing your path to wake you up.

The roars of the waves.

The swaying of the trees.

The pure whiteness of the snow.

The generosity of your neighbors.

Where can you shift your focus so you can begin seeing more beauty, more of the beautiful parts of life?

Where Are You Vibing Right Now?

You are in charge of your life. I know it can be easy to forget you are responsible for how your life goes.

What’s your mindset as you begin your day? As it ends?

What would it take to live in Higher energy, the Universal Life Force?

What kind of attitude do you have as you go throughout your day? The good, the challenges, and the mundane.

Decide that each day, you are going to notice where you are vibing.

Ask, what is directing your energy today? Are you worried or feeling pressure? Worrying is creating something you do not want.

Are you on top of the world? Maybe you just received a promotion, or did something you valued happen.

Be willing to make the changes to get on the vibrational train you desire.

Think of it as easy as changing your radio station or television channel.

Use imagery. You know, when you are driving, and the radio becomes fuzzy or static, all you do is adjust a little. Do the same with your life.

The Universe intends that you live in joy, love, and peace. The Universe intended you to receive lots of goodness and abundance.

Stop for a moment and see how much joy, love, and peace you are feeling. Maybe that’s how you shift your vibration. Find ways to add more of those qualities to your life. As you interact with others, as you plan your day.

Today, I am open to seeing things differently.

Raise your consciousness so you can receive all the goodness life offers.

It’s up to you. The small things will ultimately have you at the Highest vibrations.

As Maria Shriver shared in her Sunday Paper on January 28th, “So many of us are walking around living half a life and feeling disconnected from ourselves. So many of us have extinguished parts of ourselves simply to make it through, to survive.”

Where are you on that spectrum?

Feel your vibration, your energy.

Observe how you are in your day and all throughout your day. How are you feeling? If it feels great, keep doing that, being in that energy. You will see more minutes, hours, and days like that.

If a conversation feels crazy and unlike what you want, don’t stay in it. Listen to that. It lowers your vibration.

You have control.

Pick yourself up. Decide you can do something different. Decide to make a difference by picking someone up, maybe even yourself.

Think about how you treat yourself. Where does that take you on the vibrational scale?

Where’s your grit?

What are you doing to build inner strength?

What’s blocking you from living more, living Higher, and living more joyfully?

Are you focused more on wellness or illness?

Where are most of your conversations – about the great things life is showing you or about the horrors you heard from the media?

John Rogers, DSS shared a great quote, “It is important that you do not carry over negative thoughts from one day to the next. If you go to bed and there is still a negative thought within your mind, get up and write it all out, and then burn the paper. This will help release it from your consciousness. If the thought comes back in the next day, repeat this process. Keep it up until the thought dissolves.”
Where are you vibing right now?

Find ways to align your life with a bit more goodness, love, and kindness each day, whether that’s a smile, a note, or positive words to yourself.

Every small act can bring big changes in the energy in your life and all around you.

As Neal Donald Walsch said, “In my understanding, we are here on Earth, in physical bodies, to serve a larger purpose. I believe we are here to move forward with the agenda of the soul, which is focused on turning our knowledge of who we are into our experience of who we are.”

Today, lift your consciousness to look for good, acknowledge kindness, and appreciate the abundance and love you have.

Feel your vibration. Feel the changes in your body, in your heart.

Take charge of how you want to feel in whatever you do throughout your day and weeks. When you do, you can empower yourself to raise your vibration.

What’s the channel you plan on vibrating from?

How can you “plan” or direct your life more from your vibration than from schedule or habit?

Listening and feeling your vibration will lead you to a more loving, kind, and joyful life.

Take note of how you keep your vibration high. Hit the PRESET button.

Are You In Control Or Being Controlled?

Life feels easier and calmer when you know you are in control of your life.

That doesn’t mean everything happens the way you want. It means you decide how to handle what comes to you.

First of all, pay attention to how you deal with situations. For instance, if something goes out at your home, like a hot water tank during this cold, freezing weather. If your pipes freeze up. If your car won’t start. Notice your rant, your dialogue and your decisions. Let yourself feel whatever comes up.

The key to empowerment is where you go after that. Do you take control or stay in the blame, the rant?

You might not find a solution right away, but if you can stay in the trust, the knowing that YOU will, life changes for you. You feel better, less stressed and open to receive the answers you need.

It’s easy to spiral downward. Not helpful, but more often than not many people live here.

The more you know thyself, the more in control of your life you can be. Don’t make yourself wrong or bad.

Just notice, become aware of your patterns or habits. Then realize which patterns are no longer helpful to becoming in control and empowered with your life.

The more you understand life is for you, the less resistance and angst you feel.

Too many people are feeling angry because they feel like they are not in control of their lives. Notice where you might be blaming or feeling angry about things being out of your control.

Realize that is just a mirror for you to look inside and find out why you have given away your power.

Figure out what parts of those situations you do have control over.

Figure out what is upsetting you, and what’s the end outcome you’d like to see.

Then, empower yourself to decide how you can find ways to add more of that outcome in your life, for instance, like the wars going on. You might be blaming one side or the other. But, the empowerment comes when you decide what you want. For me, it’s peace. So, what I can do is find ways I can create more peace in my life and around me. The more I can do that, the ripple effect takes place. If I want my side and my voice to be heard and respected, then how can I give that or find ways to share my voice?

There is something there for all of us to find ways to feel more in control so we won’t be controlled.

I saw this post in one of the groups I belong to that says how beautifully life is orchestrated. Can you allow it to help you put the pieces together in your life? Too often, we don’t think about the Higher Purpose of our lives when crazy things are happening, and life feels out of control.

God's Providence

As you think about your life, how are you taking charge and creating the life you desire rather than playing the victim and feeling like you are being controlled by all kinds of outside forces?

Decide you can change your thoughts and responses to all life gives you.

Stand in confidence that you are provided for and will be given the tools you need to handle whatever is before you. (If you listen and believe that.)

Find support and people who ARE there for you. Allow yourself to go outside your comfort zone. Whether that is you think you should know how or whatever is blocking you from receiving help. You will know what feels right to you. If it feels heavy, it’s NOT right. If it feels light, follow it.

Start with small ways you give away your power, like not questioning things or wondering if there could be a better, easier way.

Pay attention to all the ways you feel out of control today and this week. Hear the conversations you are having from the observer’s point of view. Notice patterns. Are you blaming your boss, the government, your parents, or the weather? Like for me, I’m blaming the weather, I can’t take my morning walks. That’s not really true because I can go to the mall and be grateful they have opened the doors. I could go to the gym and use the treadmill or elliptical.

Yes, it’s true, it’s not ideal for what I like. But the cold weather is here right now. Do I want to be in resistance and feel like I can’t have the life I want? OR do I want to be healthy and know how much better I feel after I move my body?

The choice is yours. You can decide whether you want to be in control or be controlled.

Which are you choosing?

Are You Living From Love?

The world needs more love, and it can begin with you. Love does no harm.
Love raises your vibration.
Love opens your heart.
Love brings more kindness.
The more love you give, the more you receive.

Are You Living From Love?

Stop for a moment and ask yourself, “Do you live more of your life from your head – masculine, doing, proving yourself?” Or “do you live more from your heart, your feminine energy of goodness, love and concern of how things feel?”


Sad to say, I lived mostly from my head, getting things done and being effective at all costs. In fact, some of my biggest regrets.

There is a time for both living from your heart and living from your head. Each part is important, but the most powerful part you have is your heart.

If you were like me, there weren’t decisions made from any place but my head. I thought that was how to do life. It has been a big journey of mine to live more from my Highest.

For years, I participated in a group that focused on feminine energy. I didn’t have an understanding or a thought about feminine energy. I hadn’t thought about how much of our society was based on masculine energy: force, success, and achievement. Not that they are bad, but certainly out of proportion to live the healthiest and highest life.

What I now know is how much I need to listen from my heart, lead from my heart, and connect from my heart. Feminine energy. Then, once I tap into that power, I can move forward doing what needs to get done.

I know how much more powerful I am when I have been powered by love, compassion, and kindness.
I know I have tapped into the power of God. Because I believe God is love, God is goodness. When I’m in that state, I’m leading and living from my Highest vibration and energy. I am more powerful than ever.

As the book Power versus Force, The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior by Dr. David Hawkins says, “ The book is a guide to spiritual growth and self-realization. It reveals ways to live a life of higher consciousness. … “Love is more powerful than hatred; truth sets us free; forgiveness liberates both sides.”

Hawkins goes on to say, “Force can bring satisfaction, but only power brings joy. Victory over others brings us satisfaction, but victory over ourselves brings us joy.” Force might lead to short-term satisfaction, but never to true happiness.”

Where are you on Hawkin’s map of consciousness? How can you use this to level up living more from love? Wherever you are on the chart, look at the next level up. Spend time doing things that could raise your energy until you are finally at the top of the chart. It takes years, but every action and thought at a higher level can raise the consciousness of all.

Think about the small ways you can add more love to the way you live.


How can you add more love and warmth throughout your house? Is each room welcoming and open? Do the rooms need some open space to flow and allow energy to expand?


Begin to say more loving words to yourself.


Look for love all around rather than spending time listening to the news and other media. Why are so many people mesmerized by the Travis Kelcie and Taylor Swift relationship? It feels like pure love, and they are enamored with each other. We want more of that.


Let love be the first thing you think about instead of everything you must do. Feel how much peaceful and calm that feels.


Just like my word of the year – Generous. How can I be more “generous” and live from love?
As Mooji says, “Let your first expression be one of openness, warmth, and love, not suspicion. It’s God’s way — Welcome!”


Everything in your life is a reflection of your consciousness. The more you think and feel about love, the more it is your life.


Maria Shriver shared in her Sunday’s Paper, January 14th edition, “As we head into this election season, I invite you to lead with love and ask others to do the same. It takes tremendous inner strength and fortitude to do so. It requires parking your ego at the door. It requires intention and humility and might require you to change your mind about a thing or two. Only love can safely handle power.”
How do those words speak to you? To help you do your part in this divided nation?


Love is powerful.


Love in your mind produces love in your life.


Remember 2% more love can change your life, our world. Find small ways each day to bring in more love.


How can you let love lead your life?

Are You Living A Marginal Life?

At this time of year, it is common to assess or look at your life and decide what’s working and what’s not.

As you think about your life, what are your thoughts?

How was 2023 for you? Were you mostly doing all the things you love? Or, were you more on the end of I’ll just do like I’ve always done?

What are your intentions for 2024? To live your Highest and Best Life? Or, not willing to do much different?

Would you say you are living a great life or a marginal life?

I would say if you are living a marginal life, you have given in to being a victim. You have allowed something outside of yourself to take charge.

As Abraham-Hicks shares, “You cannot control circumstances. You never intended to control circumstances. You intended to discover unconditional love. You intended to discover a way to feel good, no matter what because you have the facility: you have the power: you have the ability to focus.”
I would say 2024 is the year for you to decide how you want your life to go. It’s time to decide to live in joy and be grateful for the life you have been given. For some, that will take a lot more effort. But it’s worth it.

If you could just think about each day and how you could add more joy or fun to your day, think of what an amazing life you’d have in 2024.

Too often, people think they need to make huge goals or shifts in their lives to make them meaningful. But the truth is that when you take charge and live in alignment with what you desire, you already feel good. You feel empowered like you are deciding rather than thinking it doesn’t matter.

Where in your life are you living marginally? Is it with your finances, relationships, or health? I know years ago, before my divorce, I never realized how much “work” it would take to have healthy, loving relationships. I just thought they happened. WRONG. Just like your career or having a car or house, there is work to be done.

Each of these areas becomes marginal when you fail to invest time, energy, and focus for what you desire.

One of the best ways to live more than a marginal life is to keep learning. In whatever way that serves you. For me, travel provides lots of learning, whether to learn about the different places we are going or, after our Antarctica and South America cruise in 2023, we decided to learn Spanish using Duolingo. I just passed my 300th day of practice. In our town, there is a new Senior Wellness Center. You can play games, do activities, or make connections with others.

Bo and I are invested in learning about longevity and how to live the healthiest we can in the years we have. He has been reading “Outlive – The Science & Art of Longevity” (Rethinking Medicine To Live Better Longer) by Peter Attia, MD.

Bo shared with me an example from the book about a lady who loved gardening and playing golf. In her 70s, she fell and quit doing the things she loved, which turned depression into dementia. Dr. Attia talks about how people accept this way of being instead of finding a way to live their lives doing what they love. His focus is on better models of medicine and wellness.

Are you willing to live a marginal life, or are you willing to seek something more for yourself?

How do you know what that is? What fills your life with joy, love, and meaning? Just like the lady above, she loved gardening and golf. How could she keep her focus on finding a way to keep those things in her life? I remember when I tore my hamstring off my bone and felt pretty hopeless about doing the things I love. But, I found a physical therapist whose first question to me was “What did I want to be able to do?” He explained that was what we needed to spend our time doing. Finding ways to get my body back to where it could move so I could hike, bike, and move all about. I was willing to do the work because I wanted to live, have fun, and enjoy my life.

Today, decide that you are going to live more than a marginal life. You are worth it.

Start by thinking how can I make this an exciting new year? How can it be an adventure? To better health, more fun, or more friends.

Think about what could be the most harmonizing thing I could to for my health.

What could create the most joy, peace, or fun for me today?

Or, do you need to find ways for more expansion in your life? What could that look like?

It’s okay if you don’t know how to get started. Just decide what you like and what feels good to you, and keep that focus. Ideas WILL show up for you. Follow the breadcrumbs and the ideas. Do what feels right to you. Some won’t, but many will. Just like our adventure with longevity. It’s crazy how many things have come before us.

As my January 2024 Science of Mind magazine says, “Give life to your goals.” Use your time and energy focused on what gives life to you and makes you feel most alive.
Widen your channels.

Are you ready to live vibrant, healthy, and abundant?

Think about Jon Gordon’s ONE WORD for the year and how that can give you focus and energy to move to a greater life. What is your ONE WORD? I mentioned mine was “Generous.” It has been neat to watch how it’s been helpful, whether with a financial decision or giving my time.

Decide you are ready to live out the rest of your life doing what you love and how you want to be.

Life showers you with what you need.

What do you need today to live more than a marginal life?

Life was meant to be fun and meaningful.

Go for it!