Who are you? Who do you want to be?
It’s important that you know. Know where you want to go so that you can make more choices in that direction.
Too often you are unconscious of the choices you make, and how they are impacting what you desire in your life.
We tend to focus more on what we don’t like rather than what we desire.
Since Mother’s Day was just here this week, let’s use that as an example of how to align with who you want to be.
If you want to be the best mom you can be. YOU must decide what that is for you. How do you decide that you are the mom you want to be? What criteria are you using?
Is that being present for your family? Like engaging with them, being without your phones, or making sure you show up for them in ways they need you.
Is that being accepting of all your children’s differences and gifts? Even when they are not what you want or expected.
Once you decide what aligns with you as being the “best mom” then the next step is to work towards achieving that.
That’s your journey.
Notice what matters to you. I know decades ago when I read Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, there was an exercise in there that brought this home. He asks you to think of your 85th birthday party. Then, think about what you would want all the people in your life to say about you. And, that is how you should be living your life now so they will say and know that about you.
One key way to know is to notice where the mom's guilt is. Notice where you are out of sorts. For instance this week, Bo had an endoscopy. When we arrived to have the procedure, I couldn’t wait with him. I was told to come back in two hours. I was so upset. I needed to be there for him, that’s who I am. Therefor you. I was crushed.
I had realized one of the most important things for me is to be there for you. And, now, I was shooed away. My vision of what that meant was challenged. I had to recalibrate to get through the pain. I was still there for him, just not in that building, next to him.
A couple of your higher needs are to grow and be connected to a power higher than you. How are you achieving in those areas? What steps could you take to enrich your life to feel more satisfied and fulfilled?
How are your achievements in your day-to-day activities and life in alignment with your core feelings and desires? For instance, if fun is one of your core feelings, are you feeling that daily, weekly to be true to yourself? If not, think of ways to put more fun in your life. That’s a success.
How do you know? If your life is stressed, overwhelmed, or out of balance, you are not in alignment with the truth of who you are and what you desire.
You have to believe that you CAN have what you desire more than just a moment here or there.
Decide today to achieve some success this week in being who you are. Not by doing and doing but by being true to what matters to you.
It’s often a simple shift in perspective of how you are viewing life, but HUGE in how life feels to you.
FEEL how good that is. FEEL the joy and excitement of being free and true to yourself.
Try this week to be in love with life, and know life loves you. Notice what shows up for you.