Are You Trusting Yourself or Are You Comparing Yourself To Others?


There are over 7 billion people on the planet.  You were created for a unique purpose.  You are not meant to be like everyone else.  Why would the world need you if you were like others?


Let contrast be inspiring.  Let the differences be your guidepost to expand your world.  Maybe noticing that comparison can be the message of where you are to move next in your world.


Trusting yourself takes courage, takes practice.


Comparing yourself to others is a dead-end road leaving you feeling awful, feeling never good enough.  Because, yes, there are others who are more beautiful, wealthier, have more friends on Facebook, or whatever you use to compare yourself.  Just know that there will always be others who have more.  Not bad or good.  


Don’t use your desires or urges to beat yourself down by comparing yourself against something or someone.


When you deny your identity, who you were created to me, you lose the flow of your natural-born creativity.  You begin to create layer after layer of masks to fit in or please.  You move further away from what’s right and natural for you to do to feel the joy and passion of your heart and soul.


For instance, if you love to write children’s books and don’t follow that excitement, you are shutting off receiving all that you need to succeed.  You decide that you need to have a certain degree to be smart enough to be seen as a legitimate author.  You think you must have it look a certain way because someone told you this is the order.  That’s not true.  Maybe for them, it is, but you have your way.


Your passion guides you to what’s right for you.  Let others’ talents help support your mission or desire. Not make you think you need to copy their way.


The work is to remove the layers of all those masks so you can be more like who you were created to be.  You don’t have to add anything.  Your job is to be in touch with you.  Love who you are.  Connect with your guidance system and become all of who you are.


The contrasts of all these billions of people and opportunities are there for you to decide which part feels right to you at this time and space.  Not to put yourself down or feel unworthy.


Play the hot and cold game.  Inch closer to what rings true for you when you notice something that catches your attention.  For instance, if you see someone you like their looks.  Cold or hot – is it the smile, the hair cut, the body size?  Ok. Once you notice what you like – then take it on as a way for you to be more like that. Smile more when you meet others, add more curls to your hair, whatever you were playing with.  Rather than, judge yourself with what they have and you don’t, YET.  


Notice your reactions to things – whether people, jobs, designs, etc.  Do you like it or not?  If not, let it go.  No need to put others down or talk badly about them. It’s not in the direction of what’s calling you.  If it feels exciting, note what you need to do to move in that direction.  If you want a job that is more isolated and not around people, honor your desires, not think something is wrong with you.


Life is figuring out what is right for you.  You might not be able to get there right away but have fun by becoming more aware of what you need to have a life that feels fulfilling and fun.  


If you like to sing and dance, do that.  Don’t care what others might say or how you look.  Honor you, what you like.  Then life rewards you with more and more opportunities to be living a better life.


You are thanking God.  You are saying that you are one lucky person to be able to express yourself freely.  


As The Course of Miracles says in lesson 190, I choose joy instead of pain.  That is choosing you instead of comparing you.  That is trusting what you desire can be exactly perfect for you even though others might not approve or like it.  Or, if it feels out of reach right now.  Let it be the light you need to move to the Highest you.  


Follow the guidance of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation, but of the adopted talent of another, you have only an extemporaneous half possession. That which each can do best, none but his Maker can teach him.” 


Use his words as your mantra to have more peace, joy, and fulfillment in your life.  


Trust yourself and realize the potential you have within you when you follow your guidance.  


Contrast is to capture your attention so you know where to go next.


Trust who you are is enough in this big world.