How You Can Have an Incredible Day

If you are ready for a game-changer in your life, take time daily to show gratitude and appreciation. The Universe LOVES gratitude!!! How are you taking advantage of how this tool can amp up your life and desires?

  • November is the perfect month to begin adding tidbits of thanks to your life.
  • It’s easy to be grateful for a great Thanksgiving meal.
  • Add a little spice to it and share appreciation for all the people who made that possible for you.
  • Use a gratitude journal each day.

William Ward shares, “God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say “thank you?”

You can attract whatever you desire with gratitude and appreciation. The way to change your world is to find things in your life in which you are grateful. What you appreciate expands.

I remember years ago when I first learned about using gratitude I was going through my divorce. My mind was so hardened and I was bitter, I couldn’t even think of things to be grateful for in my life. So embarrassing. I had SO MUCH to be grateful for because I had wonderful children, a great job, friends, a beautiful house and a great supportive family, etc.

Where could you use this month of Thanksgiving to show more gratitude and appreciation and not be like me that couldn’t even see it before my eyes?

Who would be three (3) people you could show some appreciation and gratitude for? Take some time to write them a note or email and let them know how they make a difference for you. Then notice, what an incredible day you have made!

Share with me below ways your life has changed because of receiving or giving thanks.

What Are The Simple Acts Of Love You Are Doing Throughout Your Day?

The world needs more love, kindness and compassion.

What you choose to do has a huge impact on your life, the lives around you, and the collective.

It all begins with you. You are consciously choosing how you want your life to be and go.

It seems we all want more love. The way to receive more love is to give more of it away. Unconditionally.

What are some simple acts of love you share?

Is hugging someone, whether for joy or holding someone who is in distress?

Is that listening purely to hear what someone else is saying?

Is that volunteering for a cause that matters to you?

What are your ways to show love?

Feel how you feel as you share these simple acts.

Can you allow that peace, joy and contentment to fill your body and soul?

Think about how you could be generous today. Generous with

Acts of kindness

Acts of appreciation

Acts of affection

Lots of different ways to share love.

Life can be simple yet so rich and so fulfilling.

Collectively, we have made life seem so hard. We have allowed external factors to guide our lives more than our hearts. Like competition or comparing power over and money.

How can you return to a simpler focus of sharing love, goodness and compassion?

As John Roberts, DSS states, “We are here to learn one thing primarily: inner peace. Amidst all else, when you put your body on the line and get your actions lined up with your loving, you can experience this inner peace.”

What if you knew that everything before you was a mirror to help you return to love? Yes, including all the hurt and hardship.

Different things break you open. Open to more love. I know it does not seem like it at the time.

What is receiving your attention today? The good and the bad?

Can you understand and know how each of those things you listed as good and bad can help you open up more to love and peace? For instance, I have a hard time with a lot of chaos. I like more order because I feel more peaceful – sometimes more in charge. But the good from the craziness of chaos is that it is an opportunity for me to surrender, to allow what is rather than resist it and feel stressed and uptight. It allows me to see how that state of being is not how I like or want to feel. Chaos captures my attention and makes me feel grumpy. It’s a chance for me to be detached from external and work more of what I can control, which is me, and how I want to be and feel.

Life is asking you to awaken to a higher way of being.

Find ways today to allow yourself to be happy with who you are.

How you are loving yourself.

How you are trusting yourself.

How you are honoring yourself.

How you are valuing yourself.

Can you imagine how great you would feel if you gave yourself some simple acts of love every day?

Whew, my body already began relaxing my shoulders and breathing deeper just thinking about that and how it feels.

What if when you met up with another or read about someone you dislike, you could take a moment to say and think, “I only know your Divinity?”

Be curious about how that interaction would unfold when you are in that loving energy.

What are some small ways you are willing and open to share more love today, tomorrow and on, and on?

Let today’s message be a wake-up call to share simple acts of loving throughout your day.

Make sharing loving acts a priority. Watch how your life changes and how you begin to receive more and more love.

Magical. What you give, you receive.


Where Do You Struggle to Make Your Health A Priority?

Your thoughts create your reality. You are creating your tomorrow all day.

Your health is your mind, body and spirit.

Pay attention to your thoughts and beliefs about your life, your health, and the world around you.

All these affect you based on how you respond and interact with them.

If you want to know your thoughts, stop and look at your life.

I know it’s hard to think or see that you created what you are living. But, if you step back and not make yourself wrong, see what’s working and what’s not. Be open to what else is possible for you. You can begin a journey to a healthier life – inside and out.

I can see where I’ve been stuck and rigid. My body has shown me that by the tension and tightness in my muscles. As I have learned to loosen my grip on life, I can see and feel how I relax more. I can see how my thoughts have changed about viewing me and life situations I didn’t like. I can see how I can be in the flow, allow more of what is happening, and not ramp up the unfairness or rage inside of me. I spend more time noticing and seeing what bothers me and how I’d like it to be. Then, go toward a more peaceful and loving place. More from my excitement about how I want things to be.

I’ve learned you receive what you focus on. It’s much more comfortable for me when my body is fluid and flowing than tight and hurting. Think of how your organs and glands clamp up! Tension, stress—not healthy.

Is your health like you want it to be?

Your health can direct what you can do and what needs your attention. Take a moment to listen to what your body is saying to you right now.

Is it to rest?
Is it to get moving?
Is it to love it more?

What is your body saying to you?

One of the great learnings I’ve had is through my body. Oh, I’ve had many. But, after my Pickleball injury and tearing my hamstring off the bone, I did lots of reflection and rehab. Not just to my body but to my mind and way of thinking. One of the things I learned about was how much Pilates could help me build up my small muscles around the larger ones to protect them. Most of my previous exercise was to build up my large muscles, get strong, and push through everything. Pilates has taught me to listen to my body and form in ways I have never done. I realized how much I’ve used strength more than allowing my body to work for me.

Your body is masterful in how each part can help support you if you focus on it and allow it to help you.

How are you making sure your health is vibrant and dynamic? It can be up to you rather than like me thinking I knew what to do. Rather than being open to what’s next and best for me.

Your body tells you how you can be vibrant and dynamic, no matter your conditions. Based on right where you are, what is the best thing you can do for yourself now?

I remember when Bo was recuperating from his cancer and how ecstatic we were when he could move from bench to bench on this walking path we had. One bench was a HUGE milestone. It gave him hope, joy and belief in something more the next time. Twenty years later, you would never realize how close he was to the other side.

The best thing is not to fall into the trap of thinking something greater is not possible for you unless that is what you want, like being a victim of circumstances.

You are the decision maker, and it’s not always an easy one. What helps is knowing what you want, really want. Keep that your focus.

How are you making sure your health is a top priority?

Find people who have overcome something you are facing. There are plenty of examples examples of miracles, too, that can lift you up. We just had dinner with some friends of ours. There is a couple we both know that has recently faced some unbelievable health problems, each in the hospital facing difficult circumstances, he, his wife and their adult son. Like her having breast cancer and facing horrible reactions to the chemo. Most people would feel sorry for what they are facing, but this courageous man is so humble and acts like it’s calling them to live something greater. Unbelievable spirit and strength. She is an example of living strong in her faith. Wonderful, real-life examples can make you feel like you can see things differently if they can handle ALL of what is happening in their lives.

Think about your health as filled with love. See your body as a miracle-making machine.

Think about your health as well-being. How are you making your well-being a priority? Not all your aches and pains.

As Vernon Howard shares, “Any change which contributes to your true good must start with a change in the way you think.”

Change your focus. Focus on what you WANT.

Focus on being healthier.

Be curious and wonder what else is possible.

How is your health precious to you? Keep that as your benchmark. It will change the energy with which you handle things.

What healthy choices can you make today that could lead you to a more vibrant you?

Where are you struggling today with making your health a priority? Are you too focused on the pain and struggle you are facing? How could you shift that thinking to more about listening to what your body is asking you to do?

Ask God or your Higher Power to help you – help you see things differently.

Nobody wants more pain, but paying attention to the ailments, the hurts and limitations is so easy. Remember, you receive MORE of what you FOCUS on. More pain when that is what you keep talking about and thinking about. Yes, it hurts. Acknowledge that, but ask what can you do to see something greater emerging.

Surround yourself with pictures of what you’d like, people who have overcome or uplifting messages to help you move from your struggles so you can prioritise your health.

Commit today that you are worth making your well-being your top priority. Your life depends upon it.

Move from struggle to curiosity of what else might be possible.

You will see something more.

Here’s to a healthier you.

How Are You Impacting Others?

One of the givens in life is that each of us wants to know our lives mattered.
 
What’s beautiful about that is that making your life matter happens in a variety of ways unique to each of your gifts and what matters to you.
 
Go through your day and think about ways you are making a difference.  I try to smile and say hello to people I pass when walking.  I read once that someone said,” It was the person that said hello to me that I decided I wasn’t going to commit suicide, that someone noticed her.”  
 
What matters to you?  My license plate is “THKS” because I have learned a very valuable lesson of being grateful – for everything (sometimes not so easy).  But I’m conscious of trying to express it and show how blessed I feel.  
 
You will never know the impact you have on people. Give unconditionally.  
 
I don’t know who might see my license plate. It might impact someone:
 
to be a little more gracious and kind. 
 
to take time to acknowledge all that they have been given.  
 
to be a conversation starter.
 
Think about people who have impacted your life.  Have you told them?
 
Do you know people who do the kindest things? One friend sends birthday cards to everyone she’s known for the last few decades. How kind is that!
 
You know, people who go out of their way to help others, to watch out for their neighbors.  
 
They are making a huge difference.  
 
I was blessed to have a career in education, where we impacted lives every day. I felt that education is the ticket to whatever you want to do in life.  
I love education because it’s about being curious.  Learning opens doors and worlds.  
 
Teaching is a passion of mine. I want to awaken people to see all their life possibilities. Any way I can share and help others have a better path, I’m in for it.
 
Where are you impacting others?  Ponder ways with your family, extended family, friends, community, and global community.  
 
Sometimes you think it must be in big ways like the Gates Foundation, but in reality, every tiny gesture given with love matters to others.  People will pick up on the way you make them feel.
 
Today, loneliness is at epidemic levels. The world is hurting and feeling isolated. After COVID, I really understood that. I know single adults my age who don’t have family around and spend nearly every day by themselves. I know some of that can be good, but too much creates this space of loneliness.  
 
Who do you know that could benefit from you checking in with them?  Someone in your family, an old friend, a neighbor?  Decide to do your part to help alleviate this crisis.  
 
Or, what is your interest in helping others?
 
Life is hard enough with all the responsibilities and maneuvering through life.  Take time to reach out to someone who might need to hear from you.  You will receive much.
 
There are endless ways to bring your light to impact the lives around you.
 
What matters to you?  Share that.  
 
Make someone’s day.  What you give, you receive.

How Close Are You To Real Happiness and Peace?

A goal in life is to “be happy.”

The words seem to make it sound easy.

But real living can look so different with all the pulls on you in different ways—your career, your family, your faith, your self-care, and then trying to be happy and peaceful.

Growth happens when things are hard and you figure out how to manage and live it out.

If you want to have things change in your life, you must choose different thoughts and patterns.

Like, move out of your comfort zone and choose more towards happiness and peace.

My challenge is to imagine how you can be happy in all parts of your life.

That’s the big vision. Maybe way out of your thinking of any possibility. Or, maybe you have been journeying to live a more peaceful life. Wherever you are, start. Start by adding one thing that brings you happiness – like playing the piano daily, reading a book, or taking a bubble bath. Then, acknowledge how peaceful and happy you were. (You receive more of what you focus on – gratitude and appreciation are magical tools). Or choose your health or relationships and do 1 thing that brings you pure joy. And acknowledge how you felt when you did that.

Do things more often that bring out feelings of joy and peace.

Remember, you receive what you focus on.

I know when you make a decision that happiness is your biggest desire, and you remind yourself over and over, then your life can change.

You will ask yourself along the way, does this choice bring me happiness? Or am I feeling frantic and overwhelmed? Guess what you could choose?

Become more aware of your choices and where they are leading you.

What you FEEL is so important as you are moving towards an intention or goal you desire. Keep checking in with yourself – “How am I feeling NOW? and NOW?”

Feel the nirvana in happiness and being at peace.

When you decide to choose a different path or option from what you have been doing, it requires focus, great focus, and commitment. It doesn’t happen naturally. It can be quite awkward, or it’s not even in your thinking at the time. You forget, and life goes back to autopilot.

The good part about pain or challenges in life is they capture your attention.

So when life gives you more than you can handle or think you can handle, surrender to something greater than you. This is the time when you are more open to hearing something different.

Be willing to go after the REAL goal – happiness and peace. Because all the “things and stuff” you are going after are only a disguise. You believe they will make you feel good. Decide to listen to what your real desires are. You can have the stuff, but know what you really want is the feeling – like happiness and peace.

As Mike Dooley shares, “Do you know what most people wish for, Dottie, when it comes to improving their own life? More stuff.Because they think having more stuff will contribute to their overall happiness. But do you know what most people wish for when it comes to the lives of the ones they most love and cherish?

Happiness, peace, creative work, fulfilling relationships.

Because they understand that once these things are in order, more stuff will automatically take care of itself. One of these two things doesn’t belong with the other….”

How can you shift your focus so you can begin your journey to more happiness and peace in your life?

As John Morton, DSS, shares, “Your life is full of new opportunities to create all that fulfills you. All experiences contribute to your learning and growth more than others, so you always have plenty of reason to be grateful for all you have been given.”

How close are you to real happiness and peace in your life? On a number scale 1-10, 10 being right there, full of joy and contentment, where are you? Write down that number. Then begin your awakening to consciously add more ways that bring you these feelings daily in small ways. Ask this question again in two months and see how far you have grown. Your world is probably feeling lighter, too.

Your well-being is calling you to this road of happiness and peace.

Life doesn’t need to feel chaotic and out of control.

How Do You Define The Decade of Life You Are Living?

Each decade of life tends to have a purpose or focus.

As you think about your past, consider each decade of your life. What pops into your head about each? For me, the ones that pop in my head are moving, school, college, marriage, career, family, kids leaving home, and retirement.

You may not have anticipated these phases at the time, but life generally flows in these patterns.

Your life is defined by what was important to you as you went through life.

Was there lots of happiness? More sadness? Struggles?

What were the highlights – of each decade?

I know that at this age, mid-70s, it is easy to reflect on and think about your past since most of it is behind you.

I know that at this stage in life, many think about how long they want to live. But recently, I was listening to a podcast, and the host was arguing for a change in focus. Instead of thinking about extending longevity, what if we could focus on living healthily? He was saying that just extending life is costing society too much—not just financially but mentally and emotionally, too. The shift should be to how we can help others be healthier.

My husband, Bo, was given a book by Bobb Biehl, Decade By Decade: Life Is Surprisingly Predictable.

It’s interesting because in my coaching, I have often asked clients to review their past by decades. Think about where the blessings and heartaches were. Think about your gifts and talents that weave through all. What parts of your past are haunting you, and do you need forgiveness?

As we read this book, it’s a nice summary of how life is predictable. He uses “S” words to help you focus, like 30s—Success. 40s Significance/Struggle. Boy, I’ve always said this stage is the hardest. You are trying to juggle so many things—family, career, self—maybe even being a caretaker of your parents. I wished I had known more about grace and kindness then.

And, for me, the 70s were the Succession. Reading this section was interesting because I didn’t think as he discussed it. “Who will carry on what I’ve been doing?”
I have talked about the legacy you want to leave. He talks about being a mentor. I love that idea. Young people need great role models. Bo and I’ve talked about the “lessons” we hope the kids and grandkids learn from us. Bo even talked about wanting to write them down.

What is your focus and intention for the decade you are in?

Life matters.

The more you live on purpose the more meaningful your life can be for you. You don’t always think about just surviving.

As I say, I want you to thrive.

As I think about life, I think retirement should be later. I think more people would live healthier if they were still living on purpose or for something. I wonder how we can figure out how to live, relax and enjoy life more along the way rather than thinking, “I can’t wait to retire to…travel, do what I want, etc.” Why not do that along the way? Just think about how much healthier and more balanced your life might be. Too many people I know are not happy about these retirement years. They are just passing days and complaining about their health. Health is a huge issue. Money can be a concern. Aging isn’t for sissies. It’s challenging.

Maybe that’s why I phased my work “Thriving in unRetirement.” Of course, I didn’t know then what I know now. But I feel more strongly about how important it is to have a purpose. Keep that bigger than whatever is happening to or for you. You still need that WHY to help you through all that is happening.

Think about what you would say this decade is for you, but also, think about what you’d LIKE it to be for you. Open to greater possibilities – even though it might now look possible.

Keep the hope and wish alive.

Life is predictable, and let it go toward your desires.

Do You Believe There Are No Mistakes In Your Life?

As you reflect upon your life, can you look at it and see there were no mistakes?

Do you see that everything that happened to and for you was to help you evolve into the greatest you, the one you were created to be?

I know it is hard to think that some of the unbelievable things happening aren’t mistakes.

It’s hard to imagine how the tragedies can be for you.

But, what I know is life is for you.

Life is trying to open you and me up to the Highest and Greatest.

I know there has been lots of resistance for me. I thought I was in charge, and when things weren’t going the way I desired, I pushed harder and held on tight to what I wanted, thinking I knew best.

But I learned along the way that there is a Higher Power with the best plan for me. My part was to open to what was before me and allow it all—the good and the bad, as I proclaimed.

And, of course, your choices would be based on you and what your journey and desires are. Abraham-Hicks says it so wisely, “See this world as a free world, and see everyone in it as trying—through their individual experiences—to find their way back to that calling, back to that Source Energy. And even though billions of them go about it in a way that is different than you would choose, there’s no right or wrong way. In other words, bless them all, and get on with the only thing you have any power about opening or closing your vortex to your natural state of Well-Being.”

The truth is that some of the most challenging and most painful experiences have been life-changing. Like

Birthing my two children Going through a divorce Having a petition to remove me from my principalship

As my teacher, Debbie Ford, taught, “There is gold in the darkness.”

You can’t see the light until you clear away the darkness, just as you can’t see the sun when the clouds hide it.

Every painful experience I’ve had has brought greater awareness and light to my life.

They weren’t mistakes. They weren’t easy.

It was a process of awakening more and more after lots of pain and heartache.

I was willing and allowed that something greater was there for me—even though, at the time, I couldn’t see it.

I became lighter and freer. I healed parts of myself. I became more trusting in a Power greater than me.

As a mentor of mine, Dr. Kim D”Eramo states, “Forgiveness is to see there was no wrongness in this situation.”

Where in your life do you need to erase the idea that there are mistakes?

How could you see these situations from another perspective? (Byron Katie’s The Work can help you with a turnaround.)

Lorie Ladd states, “There has never been anything wrong with you. You’re simply remembering you.”

These situations you may have labeled as mistakes are there to wake you up, get your attention, and help you move to a greater place.

Like being more loving, peaceful, joyful, and free. That’s what we all really want.

For example, the process of birthing a child. Pregnancy is hard, things are changing, your mind and body are going through many processes. How does this little being come to be? I’m not in charge, yet I am to care for myself and my little one in the best ways possible. The whole process taught me something greater than being in charge. Something miraculous is happening.

Where are you on believing there are no mistakes in life?

Notice your resistance to that statement, and go there. Clear that path. Look at what you are considering mistakes.

It’s not your decision to decide for me or others. We were all created in God’s image and likeness.

Remember, life is about contrast. The differences help you decide what is right and wrong for you.

Notice where you say, “I can’t forgive that person.” Go there to find your calling for what’s next for you. Give yourself grace, time and compassion.

Keep listening and seeing what’s there for you to evolve.

You wouldn’t be able to know more kindness if you didn’t see the hatred and atrocities. Can you thank those other people for being that mirror to help you see that you need to awaken to more kindness and compassion if that situation is before you? Look at all the people who show up for others in natural disasters – like the recent tornado in Sulphur, Oklahoma, that destroyed downtown. It’s horrible. But look at the hundreds of ways people open up and come to the rescue to support and help others. That’s beautiful, heart-warming and amazing.

Be willing to honor your life by feeling that all that has happened in it was for you—even though it might not have felt like it.

How Authentic Are You Living?

I’ve recently come to the realization that life is about becoming the authentic you. It’s about knowing who you are and removing all that is not you, all that you accumulated along the way that is not the real you.

That is the journey.

As you think about your life, who are you?

It’s not really about all you accumulated and all you became.

All of that is for you to discover who you are.

You can choose from the buffet of life’s possibilities to come to some conclusions about what is real for you.

I don’t know about you, but I thought life was about achieving—gaining my degrees, jobs, family, relationships, etc.

Yes, that is a pathway to finding yourself and discovering who you are. Who you authentically are.

Not the job or financial status. Not the accomplishments. Not what your parents, church or society wanted from you.

But, who are you? What matters to you? At your core?

As A Course in Miracles teaches, everything is love or a call for love.

Think about your path from the perspective of “Love.” Ask yourself lots of reflective questions. Think about all that has happened to you in your life through the decades.

How did your experiences help you get closer to LOVE?

Which ones challenged you to show more LOVE?

What has torn you open to be more LOVE?

How much do you love yourself? Or were you taught and still thinking that is selfish talk?

How are you making choices based on what you LOVE, not others?

I know choosing things for me has been a long journey. I thought I was to please my family, church, and society. Do the right thing and follow the rules. Be the good girl. Oh, yes, I have chosen another road or ten from there, helping me decide what was right for me. All helping clarify what feels good to me. Good to live in peace and contentment.

But all my lessons and experiences have helped me to become an authentic person. I still am pulled by wanting to please those close to me. Most of the time, it is what is right for me. I’m staying aware of when I choose for other people or purposes.

It doesn’t quite feel easy or at peace.

How authentic are you living?

Notice where you feel the most peace and love. That’s the authentic you.

Find ways to feel more of this, more love, joy and peace in you. Add more of those times and situations. I think about how much I loved my career in education. I gave it my all. I loved it. It was hard and stressful, but at the core, it was the best. Brought more love and joy to my life. When it wasn’t, I had to look at it and see why I was off. Then, I choose how to bring myself back to these feelings of joy instead of worry or stress.

What have you done for yourself – even when others wanted something else from you?

Take notice of where and whom are pulling you and guiding your choices rather than by you. Sometimes, the results will be the same, but make sure more of your decisions are made for you to become the most authentic you.

This topic interests me because, as I’ve read, the top things people say on their deathbed are that they wish they had lived more authentically and done more of what they wanted. I don’t want to die with the music still inside of me. I want to be at peace. I want to give all I have inside of me.

I know too many women of my generation were taught to be subservient to their spouses, losing who they were to whom their partner expected them to be.

Start paying attention to where you live for other people, circumstances or reasons.

Decide today and each day that you will make more of your choices and decisions based on what is authentic for you. Even when you notice someone might be pushing you, shift your perspective to how you can make that choice to be right for you.

The more you align with your authentic self, the more peace, joy, and love you will feel and experience in your life.

How can you begin today to live more authentically?

How Authentic Are You Living?

I’ve recently come to the realization that life is about becoming the authentic you. It’s about knowing who you are and removing all that is not you, all that you accumulated along the way that is not the real you.

That is the journey.

As you think about your life, who are you?

It’s not really about all you accumulated and all you became.

All of that is for you to discover who you are.

You can choose from the buffet of life’s possibilities to come to some conclusions about what is real for you.

I don’t know about you but I thought life was about achieving. Gaining my degrees, my jobs, my family, my relationships, etc.

Yes, that is a pathway to finding yourself and discovering who you are. Who you authentically are.

Not the job or financial status. Not the accomplishments. Not what your parents, church or society wanted from you.

But, who are you? What matters to you? At your core?

As A Course in Miracles teaches, everything is love or a call for love.

Think about your path from the perspective of “Love.” Ask yourself lots of reflective questions. Think about all that has happened to you in your life through the decades.

How did your experiences help you get closer to LOVE?

Which ones challenged you to show more LOVE?

What has torn you open to be more LOVE?

How much do you love yourself? Or were you taught and still thinking that it is selfish talk?

How are you making choices based on what you LOVE, not others?

I know choosing things for me has been a long journey. I thought I was to please my family, church, and society. Do the right thing and follow the rules. Be the good girl. Oh, yes, I have chosen another road or ten from there, helping me decide what was right for me. All helping clarify what feels good to me. Good to live in peace and contentment.

But all lessons or experiences have helped me to become the authentic me. I still am pulled by wanting to please those close to me. Most of the time, it is what is right for me. I’m staying aware of when I choose for other people or purposes.

It doesn’t quite feel easy or at peace.

How authentic are you living?

Notice where you feel the most peace and love. That’s the authentic you.

Find ways that you can feel more of this, more love, joy and peace in you. Add more of those times and situations. I think about how much I loved my career in education. I gave it my all. I loved it. It was hard and stressful, but it was the best at the core. Brought more love and joy to my life. When it wasn’t, I had to look at it and see why I was off. Then, I choose how to bring myself back to these feelings of joy instead of worry or stress.

What have you done for yourself – even when others wanted something else?

Take notice of where and who is pulling you and guiding your choices rather than by you. Sometimes, the results will be the same, but make sure more of your decisions are made for you to become the most authentic you.

This topic interests me because, as I’ve read, the top things people say on their deathbed are that they wish they had lived more authentically and done more of what they wanted. I don’t want to die with the music still inside of me. I want to be at peace. I want to give all I have inside of me.

I know too many women of my generation were taught to be subservient to their spouses, losing who they were to whom their partner expected them to be.

Start paying attention to where you live for other people, circumstances or reasons.

Decide today and each day that you will make more of your choices and decisions based on what is authentic for you. Even when you notice someone might be pushing you, shift your perspective to how you can make that choice to be right for you.

The more you live in alignment with the authentic you, the more peace, joy and love you will feel and have in your life.

How can you begin today to live more authentically?

How Are You Enjoying Life Today?

Today is a gift.

Today is a gift.

As you wake up, I hope you set your day’s intentions.  For your day to go the way YOU want it to go.
 
Life is about discovering who you are and how you can live by expressing yourself.  Boy, I wish I had known that sooner.
 
As you think about your life today, what areas are you enjoying?  
 
Where are you struggling or out of alignment with what you desire or want for your life?
 
Notice if you are spending more time focused on your challenges or what you desire.  
 
Remember, you are given what you think about it.  More of what you don’t want or what you do want?
 
As you think about a past event or situation you regret, can you put it in perspective? That was one point in time, maybe one chapter in your life. But have you made it the story of your life?
 
How, instead, could you use that as a gift so you can enjoy your life today?
For instance, after my divorce, I learned about relationships – with myself and others.  I became a life coach because I saw that as a dark part of my life.  It has become an awakening to a more extraordinary life and infinite possibilities.  
 
Today, I live for each day.  I realize how blessed I am.  Yes, those were hard times, hurtful moments, things I had to forgive, and painful situations, but it was a chapter in my life, not what I need to repeat and talk about how hard life is today because of it.  
 
You create the life you desire from what you are given.  
 
You have a choice.  
 
Feel empowered rather than powerless.
 
How can you enjoy today?  
 
I know where I am; there is sunshine today. 
 
I have good health. 
 
I’m blessed with a fabulous husband, children and grandkids.  
 
I get to go to exercise class today and take a walk.  
 
I could go on and on.   
 
What are you magnifying?  Are you enjoying your life today or staying focused on the rough patches?
 
It’s springtime.  Life is giving you an opportunity to lighten up and be more of growing things you desire.  Just like your garden, remove the weeds, and yes, parts of them might come back, but focus on what you planted, the beauty, the colorful, the differences.  
 
Decide today to focus on how you are enjoying your life. It is how you created it. If it’s not how you like it, create a new plan. What would that be for you—more fun, more light-heartedness? Go fishing, have a picnic, or dance your heart away.
 
Put more joy in your life.  That’s the way your life was meant to be.  More God-like, joyful, full of goodness that’s special to you.
 
Reach out to someone, make their day special, and see how your heart opens up.
 
How are you enjoying your life today?  Make that your focus each and every day.

What Can You Do More Of To Keep Your Spirit Up?

One of the best things you can do for yourself is to make sure that you put love in every corner of your house.

Are those pictures of those you love?

Are paintings the ones that bring out the joy and creativity you feel?

Are scents what bring you into the moment?

You will be amazed at how your spirit changes.

It’s Springtime. Let’s do some Feng Shui. Go through each room and notice what thrills your heart. Keep those things. Find items that no longer have meaning or a spark for you, and let those go. Give them away. Move them out.

When you have things in your life – items, people or thoughts that are no longer serving you, it’s important to remove that density. Some things are heavier than others. Move those right away. For instance, when we were remodeling, I wanted my house to feel light, edgy and fun. My previous style was Tuscany, which is dark, dense, and heavy. Totally in contrast. So, we began changing out what we wanted piece by piece. I focused on what I wanted. Before I knew it, the energy shifted. The feeling was aliveness, lots of space and light.

Do more of what keeps your spirit up.

Maybe your closet needs a makeover. I know many people shift out spring/summer clothes for the fall/winter wardrobe. Feel how good and light that feels. Just simple things like that can do great things to lift your spirits.

But, do something more. Clean out what you are no longer excited to wear. I know it’s hard. Maybe you paid a lot for something you’ll never wear again. Be generous and give it away so someone else can have that particular moment. Perhaps you can’t fit into things and are tricking yourself into thinking someday. That’s heavy on you. That brings shame or guilt. Keep one thing special in case that happens. But allow yourself to honor where you are, not pull yourself down. Keep your spirit UP.

Take time to list three things that lift up your spirit, like having long talks with a sister or friend. What are they for you? If it’s reading a good book, give that gift to yourself. Wrap up in a blanket or sit outside. Make it sensual. Then, give away all your books. Keep the energy flowing. What you give away will come back to you tenfold. Think about the suggestions for new books you’ll receive and the joyful feelings that give you.

Life is about the small choices you make day in and day out to keep your spirits up. We lost one of our trees in the backyard right outside my dining room window last year. I loved looking at it swaying, standing tall and giving off great looks. That spot was empty for months. This week, it was replaced. I was bouncing around, joyful, laughing, and giddy at how much it meant to have one back in that space. I know Bo was probably tired of me wanting him to see it again.

What are some small things that can brighten your day at this moment? Stop and give that to yourself. We love our Skylight, which flashes photos from different trips, family get-togethers, grandkids, and such. Talk about raising the energy. I love passing by. The pictures float by, reminding me of how blessed and lucky I am and allowing me to see all that I have to love in my life.

Special moments can bring great joy and fulfillment. Find them. Give those to yourself. For years, I’ve taught my daily lessons in A Course in Miracles. This year I decided to go deeper so I joined Living The Course online. Each day, they have a video about the lesson, and then throughout the week, many group lessons about it.

Special moments to keep my spirit up.

What could be some of those special moments for you?

Life is for you to take charge and decide what brightens your world. Then, it’s your job and responsibility to align with what rings your bell.

As you can tell, there are many choices, chaos, and distractions. The challenge is to be more grounded in what is right for you. Think buffet.

I don’t want negativity or chaos in my life. I like colorful things. They bring great joy to my life. I want a simple life. Design that. Don’t have lots going on.

You choose if you want to keep your spirits up.

Decide you will no longer let outside forces decide how your life will go.

Decide you will make your choices based on what lifts your spirit. What makes you feel free as a bird to fly? Or think like a river flowing.

Let life be more straightforward and more simple for you.

Design your days around what you can do to keep your spirits high.

What can you do away with today and tomorrow so you can feel lighter and brighter?

It’s Springtime.

Bring a new way of being to you and your life. Allow your life to be filled with things that boost your being.

What will you COMMIT to that will keep your spirits up?

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