As you reflect upon your life, can you look at it and see there were no mistakes?

Do you see that everything that happened to and for you was to help you evolve into the greatest you, the one you were created to be?

I know it is hard to think that some of the unbelievable things happening aren’t mistakes.

It’s hard to imagine how the tragedies can be for you.

But, what I know is life is for you.

Life is trying to open you and me up to the Highest and Greatest.

I know there has been lots of resistance for me. I thought I was in charge, and when things weren’t going the way I desired, I pushed harder and held on tight to what I wanted, thinking I knew best.

But I learned along the way that there is a Higher Power with the best plan for me. My part was to open to what was before me and allow it all—the good and the bad, as I proclaimed.

And, of course, your choices would be based on you and what your journey and desires are. Abraham-Hicks says it so wisely, “See this world as a free world, and see everyone in it as trying—through their individual experiences—to find their way back to that calling, back to that Source Energy. And even though billions of them go about it in a way that is different than you would choose, there’s no right or wrong way. In other words, bless them all, and get on with the only thing you have any power about opening or closing your vortex to your natural state of Well-Being.”

The truth is that some of the most challenging and most painful experiences have been life-changing. Like

Birthing my two children Going through a divorce Having a petition to remove me from my principalship

As my teacher, Debbie Ford, taught, “There is gold in the darkness.”

You can’t see the light until you clear away the darkness, just as you can’t see the sun when the clouds hide it.

Every painful experience I’ve had has brought greater awareness and light to my life.

They weren’t mistakes. They weren’t easy.

It was a process of awakening more and more after lots of pain and heartache.

I was willing and allowed that something greater was there for me—even though, at the time, I couldn’t see it.

I became lighter and freer. I healed parts of myself. I became more trusting in a Power greater than me.

As a mentor of mine, Dr. Kim D”Eramo states, “Forgiveness is to see there was no wrongness in this situation.”

Where in your life do you need to erase the idea that there are mistakes?

How could you see these situations from another perspective? (Byron Katie’s The Work can help you with a turnaround.)

Lorie Ladd states, “There has never been anything wrong with you. You’re simply remembering you.”

These situations you may have labeled as mistakes are there to wake you up, get your attention, and help you move to a greater place.

Like being more loving, peaceful, joyful, and free. That’s what we all really want.

For example, the process of birthing a child. Pregnancy is hard, things are changing, your mind and body are going through many processes. How does this little being come to be? I’m not in charge, yet I am to care for myself and my little one in the best ways possible. The whole process taught me something greater than being in charge. Something miraculous is happening.

Where are you on believing there are no mistakes in life?

Notice your resistance to that statement, and go there. Clear that path. Look at what you are considering mistakes.

It’s not your decision to decide for me or others. We were all created in God’s image and likeness.

Remember, life is about contrast. The differences help you decide what is right and wrong for you.

Notice where you say, “I can’t forgive that person.” Go there to find your calling for what’s next for you. Give yourself grace, time and compassion.

Keep listening and seeing what’s there for you to evolve.

You wouldn’t be able to know more kindness if you didn’t see the hatred and atrocities. Can you thank those other people for being that mirror to help you see that you need to awaken to more kindness and compassion if that situation is before you? Look at all the people who show up for others in natural disasters – like the recent tornado in Sulphur, Oklahoma, that destroyed downtown. It’s horrible. But look at the hundreds of ways people open up and come to the rescue to support and help others. That’s beautiful, heart-warming and amazing.

Be willing to honor your life by feeling that all that has happened in it was for you—even though it might not have felt like it.