Day 8 Lesson:

“Women who behave rarely make history.”
(Have fun with your journey)

Day 8 takes you into how your life is reflecting you.  You have created the life you are living whether it was consciously or unconsciously.  What you believe and feel is your life.  Is it serving you today?  Do you believe that you can make your dreams come true?  Either way, you are right because that is the world you are creating.  What is your story you are telling?  Is it one of possibilities or one of limitations?  You are an unlimited being. You can do and have whatever you want.

What is your past?  What is your story? People overcome great challenges.  Each of you has survived astronomical numbers of feats.  Why do you go to default and allow yourself to be defined by a few of these hurdles you had to overcome or where you sunk low?  Take some time to see all the things – big and small- you have done in your life.  Crossed the street safely? Survived the years of schooling; how you take care of all the chores you have in a day whether at home or work. Are you responsible and dependable? Then look at how deep that is in all you have accomplished to be that. Are you kind and loving? That’s huge.  You have made a difference for yourself and others. You are simply amazing! How could you let be the reflection of you?

What else do you need to do some chiseling away on to let you shine? Most of you have probably experienced places where you swayed off track, gone down some dark roads.  Have you been able to dig deep and understand the choices and what they mean to your life? Were you wounded and trying to make up for that? When you are able to accept your dark side, you begin the transformation of being in integrity with yourself.  You feel a greater sense of worth, you trust yourself more because you know you are being honest and you take back your life.   By accepting what has happened or integrating the meaning in your life, it frees you to move on and, often, stronger for it.

You can become your own worst enemy.  Don’t keep reliving your past pain. It is not helping you move forward in your life.  You are the sum of your past, it has happened. (Now, I am not saying you don’t feel the pain and deal with all the stuff at the time it happened, but usually you drag it on and on and on often decades and decades).  It’s all part of the bigger plan of your life.  You needed the experiences to put together all the parts to help you be who you are meant to be. Honor where you have been and what you have done.  It served a purpose.  It got you here.

Pain is there to tell you that you are not where you want to be. Are you listening to it or numbing it? Where could you pay attention to your pain?  Give yourself permission to be honest.  It’s in the honesty and the willingness that your life can shift closer to the life you desire.

Actions Steps

1. Write out a fear or frustration.  Then write a letter from your Higher Self to that scared part of you.  The Higher Self will see it from a loving and kind point of view. Let the voices dialogue.  (Tama Kieves, Inspired and Unstoppable)
2. Think of two emotions that are prevalent in your life.  Notice how they are reflecting you and guiding your life.  For instance, one for me was frustration.  I was frustrated people weren’t doing what I wanted or how I wanted it done.  First, I had to own that I was living in frustration before I could dig and understand how it was controlling me in a negative way.  Then I had to realize I can’t control the decisions others make.  I can choose my response to when they do or say things that I don’t like.  I can notice I don’t like it and let it be because it is not something I have control over. I don’t have to make it mean anything else.  Just notice I didn’t like it. I don’t have to go in a tirade about the situation because I am only giving it more energy which gives me more of frustration. Or if you have someone in your life that is not doing what you want and become frustrated, you can communicate what you need and give choices about making it happen.  If they don’t do it, you have a plan that you follow through with on detaching from the situation.  You set boundaries for what you need.  If they fail to follow through, you have your plan to follow through.  It’s not always easy but it is your life to create how you want.  You will keep getting situations around “frustration” until you take back control of how you are letting it control you and your life.