You Are No Good To Others Unless You Are Good To Yourself


You are simply amazing!


Do you know that?  How do you feel about that? 


Now is the time to step into your own glory and queenhood.   


If you aren’t for you, who is?




How do you nourish and pamper yourself? 


Are you your biggest cheerleader?


Do you believe in yourself?


I know for so long we were taught those ideas meant you were bragging and were conceited. 


But, the literature is strong about if you aren’t taking care of yourself, then you have an empty tank and can’t be good to others.  Just like if you are sick, it’s hard for you to take care of others.  If your patience is worn out, you are short-fused and can implode on others.


I know the first time I understood the need to fill your tank was with Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. 


Do you know the benefits for your body, mind, and soul?  Your body can relax from stress hormones.  Your mind can slow down and relax.  And, you can hear what your soul is calling you towards.


You are a better person.


Becoming good to yourself is not an overnight process.  It takes baby steps and continuously being conscious of your choices and decisions.  Realizing YOU are worth it.


Be patient with yourself as you begin this journey to loving yourself.  You will make excuses like I don’t have time, I’m supposed to do for everyone else.  Just notice. 


God created you to be all you can be, too.  You can’t be if you aren’t taking care of yourself.


Begin noticing how you treat yourself by noticing your thoughts and actions. 


Are your thoughts – body bashing or are you giving your body the love it deserves by having vibrations of love and acceptance?

Are you giving yourself moments of luxury?   Like cultivating feelings of what you want.  As Daniella LaPorte says, it’s the core desired feelings you really should be paying attention to.  That’s the luxury you are after.


You are like the top 5 people you hang around with.  So, why not make sure you are surrounding yourself with high-frequency people?  People who radiate love, joy, and compassion. 


What do you need to stop doing so you can begin to cherish who you are and live the life YOU were meant to live?


Connect to your heart and body.  I know for most of my life, I have been outside of my body.  I thought I was to be directing what needed to happen in my life.  I wasn’t listening to my body because I was too busy and couldn’t hear or didn’t trust that the Universe knew better than I.


Now I know more about body wisdom, being connected to my inner wisdom and a power greater than me and see how powerful that is for me to be my best.


As Abraham-Hicks says, use your emotional guidance system and you will never go wrong. 


How many times did you know better because of some inner guidance and you went the other way justifying or defying what your body was telling you? 


You know when you are exhausted.  What do you do when you know something?  Do you honor what you are receiving?  Or, do you keep pushing through?  Maybe until the Universe slams you down with an illness that you have no other choice.


What if instead, you honored yourself and followed-through to what YOU needed?


Today, I finally catch myself sooner when I am trying to force things because I want my way rather than trusting my inner wisdom. 


Notice what influence you are under as you move through your days.  Is it you as the controller of the universe or you allowing the Universe to provide for you?  Your body KNOWS what you are asking for, allow it to give you want you need.


How about using Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages to help nourish and honor you?


Words of Affirmation

Quality Time


Physical Touch

Acts of Service


How can they help?  They can be reminders of small ways you can be GOOD to yourself.


Words of Affirmation. Think about showering yourself with words of kindness and appreciation.  Think of all the magnificent things you do – for others is usually the easiest place to begin.  I am thoughtful.  I am generous.  I am caring. 


Quality Time.  Maybe at this moment, the most important thing you could have is some alone time.  You might be afraid to ask for it but do it anyway.  What if you honored yourself and realized the importance of even an hour of alone time each week.  Or, maybe you and your partner need adult-only time focusing on fun things you enjoy doing together. 


Gifts.  Treat yourself to some bubble bath and enjoy pampering yourself.  Or, get a fitness tracker to remind you to take care of your health.


Physical Touch.  Do you need to hug someone or ask them for a hug?  How about is it time to receive a massage which covers a few love languages?


Acts of Service.  Do you need to ask others to help you or can you be kind to yourself and hire someone to clean the house?


Commit to one way you will begin honoring yourself. 


Take time to be good to yourself.  It pays dividends. 


The world needs what you have to offer.