How Can You Choose The Light Today?

Every day and every moment is an opportunity for you to feel more light and love.

Life is always calling you to be your Higher Self.

Are you taking advantage to give that to yourself?

Notice the directions you head off to. Pay attention to where you tend to go, whether the TV stations you listen to, the conversations you engage in, or the posts you share.

Are you bringing more light or fear?

The highest levels for you to feel are love, peace, and joy.

One of the best things to do for yourself is to notice how your life is in reference to these places.

Notice your choices and your decisions. When you are thinking about doing something, saying something, or planning something, ask yourself will this choice or decision give me more love, joy, and peace? If it does, follow those breadcrumbs. Follow each choice, and if you are still feeling better and lighter, that’s the right choice or decision for you.

If what you are discussing or sharing doesn’t feel light, hold on to it. Rather than leading with something to stir up others, find it within yourself to realize how this moment is an opportunity for you to find more light.

Love raises your vibration, your insights, and your day.

Love invites you into goodness.

Listen to your inner voice for what you need today.

What you focus on, you receive more.

The more conscious you are about whatever you do, the more empowered and excited you will feel about life.

Habits and past behaviors can keep you in darkness. Like needing to prove yourself, making somebody else wrong, or addictions.

There are two voices within you competing. Here’s a Native American legend that explains it well:

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight, and it is between two wolves. One is evil–he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. Yet, the same fight is going on inside you–and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Which are you feeding in your life?

Today, I invite you to be looking and following the light. The light of kindness, compassion, joy, and peace. Whatever feels like the highest energy you feel. I know many days I tell myself to look for positive expectations or expect the best.

This past weekend we were in a group where they were discussing topics that bring great fear up in others, things that don’t make sense when everything in your life works right. I was asked what I thought. I replied with a few examples of people I know struggling with that issue. Real people, real situations. The temperature changed. You could see how their hearts opened, and they even said, oh, that is different, and I can understand the need.

Yes, when you listen with your heart rather than the fear your mind has been filled with, life can have different meanings.

Take time today to pay attention to each decision you are making. See if you can focus on only love, joy, and peace. Sure, you will go off to a lower energy. But remind yourself to get back on track.

Remember your focus. Put stickies around. Put reminders on your phone. I have a reminder in mine at noon to make a heart connection – breathe 10 times deeply, 10 things I’m grateful for. I don’t always do it perfectly, but it still shifts me back to where I want to be. How I want to feel.
Remember, only 2% more of what you desire in your life can change the trajectory of how your life is lived. 2% more today, 2% more tomorrow, and just feel the changes that can happen.

One of my Marianne Williamson’s books shares this prayer,

“Dear God,
May my mind today be filled with light
So darkness cannot enter here.
May love so saturate my every thought
That fear cannot remain.

Today, choose how you can bring more light to your world and notice how others around you are lighter and brighter too.

Fill your heart with light and love.

How Do You Treat Yourself Well Every Day?

The value of your life is decided by how you value yourself.

If you are like me, you were, or are, searching for value outside yourself.

It’s up to you to honor and adore yourself. How you treat yourself is how others will treat you.

  • Listen to the words you say to yourself. Notice how much you are beating yourself up.
  • Are you flowing and dancing each day? Or are you complaining and spouting negativity?

How is your inner being feeling?

Permit yourself to be “good” to you every day. You probably allow yourself to be showered with love, attention, and joy on your birthday. Instead of just that day, do it every day.

Take each area of your life and see how you can take steps forward to treating yourself well every day.

  • Take time to shower yourself with positive, uplifting thoughts.
  • Focus on what you want to happen for you. Intend how your days will be. Like calm, pleasing, and peaceful.
  • Move your body. Tell your body how grateful you are for how much it has allowed you to do this lifetime. Eat well by choosing something healthy each day for yourself. Celebrate whatever victories come your way. All the little things add up.
  • Listen to your feelings and emotions. Allow all of them to be there. Realize they have messages for you and are not to be discounted. Let your emotions pass on through rather than hold on to them. See the image of clouds passing by.
  • Tap into a Higher Power. Whether that is through meditation, prayer, or spiritual gatherings. Know you always have someone on your side. Acknowledge that connection and relationship.

Notice how you feel after a day or two of giving love to yourself. How your attitude about you and your life changes. It is worth giving this attention.

Look at the judgments in your life. Judging isn’t bad or good because judging allows you to discern what works for you. Let the judgments show you the contrast, not make yourself or others wrong. Let that judgment show you what is right or wrong for you now. If you don’t like something, use it as a springboard to treat yourself better. For instance, if you’ve been a couch potato and are tired of it and make disparaging remarks about lazy people, find ways to get outdoors and connect with your neighbors or a group that could use your special skills. Whatever you judge is a mirror for you to take the next step. It’s like your breadcrumbs. Follow them.

True freedom is bringing light to the darkness in your life. Where things are not working for you anymore, something brighter and lighter wants to come through.

Life is always calling you to be the best version of yourself.

Think of yourself as a princess, CEO, or favorite actor or actress. How would they be treated? Write out what qualities that pop up for you about each person you admire. Give that to yourself.

You deserve it.

Spend the month of May focused on treating yourself well. Each day commits to making one small gesture:

  • Honoring who you are.
  • Valuing yourself.
  • Loving you.

You are the most important person in your world. You matter.

How Are You In Resistance To The Ebb and Flow Of Life?

How Are You In Resistance To The Ebb and Flow Of Life?

Life is about flow—the ups and downs, the here and gone.

There is nothing constant. Energy is always moving.

There is a right time. The Now. Because it is what is happening.

Right now, notice the weather, the traffic, or your schedule. Pay attention to the conversations you are having.

Are you allowing all of it to be okay?

Are you making it wrong?

What if you could step back and wonder how whatever is happening at the moment is for your greater good, is part of the divine design for you?

Do you know that when you receive a “problem,” the Universe shows you where energies that have been clogged up need to be released?

What needs your release of a stronghold you have going on?

Think of the seasons of the year and the seasons of life. They happen – spring, summer, fall, and winter. You are born and go through the decades. Each year of your life brings new situations and continuations of the old. Each season has its purpose, beauty, and differences.

When we went to D.C. on the first of April, we hoped to see all the cherry blossoms. They bloomed early. It didn’t bother us because we weren’t attached to that as our focus or purpose. Instead, we saw redbuds in so many beautiful states. We saw the beauty of our Capitol.

As Ernest Holmes says, “My consciousness alone determines the richness or the poverty of my thinking.”

Where are you stuck?
Life seems easy when everything feels like it is working. Notice where you allow it to be and savor the ease and flow. Become aware of what creates the tension from a situation that isn’t ebbing and flowing the way you think it should be.

What happens for you when obstacles are before you or a sudden change of plans comes forth for you? I know I am better today than I have been, but boy, is this an area of great work for me. Just like this morning, I received another email about the changes to our Hawaii travel for 2024. I bristle. I complain in my head. Yet, I know it’s all out of my hands. I know it is what it is. My work is to wonder why the resistance is and how I can free that.

How many things are you “fighting” in your life? Your age, your weight, your relatives, your politics, or your circumstances?

Feel the struggle, the tightness.

Why why are you and I pushing against so much in our lives?

What if you could ask, “What is here for me?”

Is it some fear arising?

Is it a loss of control?

Is it the feeling of powerlessness?

Why are you resisting? What’s behind the resistance?

Life has powerful messages for you. The messages are there to help make your life easier.

Can you allow life to be the ebb and flow it is? Can you ride those waves? Knowing that the other side will be here soon.

Even if you have had some tragedy in life, allow yourself to go through the stages of grief, whether denying, bargaining, or in anger. Feel what’s there but not in resistance of it. Don’t make It wrong. Life is happening through you.

Can you meet the moment?

Rather than resist?

Rather than thinking you know all the answers?

Rather than seeking a solution at the level of where your problem is?

Notice what part of you comes out – the fixer, the doer, or the knower?

Life is about the ebb and flow. The work is to allow it to be.

“The will of God is for the greater good.” God or your Higher Power is listening to your desires, helping clear the way for you, or something greater to happen for you.

Your job is to open and allow this flow of life to support you and all you desire.

Life is beautifully orchestrated for your Highest Good.

Have faith. Let go. Let God.

Are You Willing To Feel What You Are Feeling?

When I grew up, we were taught not to feel, to suck it up, and move on. But unfortunately, I have learned over the years how unhealthy that philosophy can be.

Yes, it can help you move on from a situation but also harden you and your body.

Yes, momentarily, it can help protect you. But, it can stay in your body as trauma if you don’t process it by feeling whatever happened to you

Your body is meant to feel whatever is there. It has natural protection mechanisms for you. Your body speaks to you. The problem is most of us need to listen to it. We think our minds are smarter.

This week we visited the Bourbon Trail and Keeneland Race Track in Kentucky. What a beautiful country. One day we were visiting a few of the distilleries in Louisville when by happenstance, we walked past the bank where the shooting had just taken place on the past Monday.

My heart sank, and my body chilled seeing the flowers, messages, and police protecting the space. Their call is for more LOVE.

Why are we here where shooting is an answer to the pain we are feeling?

Individually and collectively, we need to rise above the darkness that is swirling and creating these painful acts.

It’s time to get real. To be honest with ALL you are feeling and dealing with. Not sugarcoat. I get that it’s not easy to feel some of the hurt or horrible situations. But neither is the craziness that is happening all around us now.

As John Lennon says, “One thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside.”

Where are you at your wit’s end? Where do you think you can’t handle this anymore?
Where are you hiding?

You are where you are. Don’t make yourself wrong.

I’m calling on you and me to rise above and quit avoiding our feelings and blaming.

What do you need? Who can help you?

You need to applaud yourself that you have been able to traverse life and all that has come before you. You need to celebrate all the ways and strategies you have used to help you handle what has been given to you or that you have experienced.

They worked then, but today something new is needed.

It’s time to free yourself from the pain, the resentments, the hurts, the hateful rhetoric, and the illnesses.

There is too much pain inside all of us. People are exploding.

Where are you hurting? Where are you in pain?

Can you own that? Do not make it wrong or bad.

Can you name what you really are feeling?

Can you allow yourself to feel the hurt, the loss?

Can you stay in pain without numbing it, whether with drugs, Facebook, or busyness?

Can you see why all of this is there for you?

How are you running from the hurt instead of saying what you are really feeling, like “I feel like a loser,” “I’m so angry at them for..” or “I’m scared?”

What help do you need? Some of your pain can be horrendous. Some professionals can help guide you through releasing all that has been built up. To help you make life more doable.

Medical doctors can help. Alternative medicine can help move you back to wellness. Spiritual guidance can support your journey. Support groups can help.

Trust you know what is best for you today. Not yesterday or the future. But what do you need today to help you?

Feelings will move through your body if you don’t hold on to them. They are messengers for something higher for you. Whether it is time to let go of an old pattern that did help protect you at some point or whether to get your attention to seek something different than what you are doing.

Too often, you fight for your limitations rather than seek a solution that could help resolve the situation, often by feeling what is there, owning it, and letting it go.

When you hold on to your feelings, they build up and block the flow in your body, which can result in illness, pain, and explosions. Patterns are formed, and the problems become bigger.

Like this Harry Potter quote, J.K. Rowling, “I DON’T CARE!” Harry yelled at them, snatching up a lunascope and throwing it into the fireplace. “I’VE HAD ENOUGH, I’VE SEEN ENOUGH, I WANT OUT, I WANT IT TO END, I DON’T CARE ANYMORE!”
“You do care,” said Dumbledore. He had not flinched or made a single move to stop Harry from demolishing his office. On the contrary, his expression was calm, almost detached. “You care so much you feel as though you will bleed to death with the pain of it.”

You often don’t see a way out. I’m here to tell you there is.

Your mind only makes you believe you can’t handle it. When you stay on the level of the problem, it doesn’t seem like you can work through the trauma, the pain, or the hurt. But, with God or your Higher Being, everything is possible.

Feel whatever you feel. Feel life. Live life. Which means the ups and downs, all of it. Then you can enjoy the highlights of the greatest feelings of joy and the sorrows of losing those you love. It’s all part of it.

By feeling what is there, you can free yourself to live life to the fullest.

How Can The Easter Resurrection Help You ReAwaken To A Purpose or Dream You’ve Had?

Easter has just passed, and the Resurrection of Christ is on many people’s minds.

This idea of Resurrection can help propel you to some rebirth in your life.

Something you might have given up on.

Something someone told you couldn’t be.

Something you desired to do and the timing needed to improve.

What is your statement of allegiance to your Self?

Mooji says, “We believe more in our delusions than in the Truth.”

Are you willing to release judgments, resentments, and limiting beliefs so something Higher can show up for you?

Think about what it is that you would LOVE to experience. Then, be open to the possibilities, to the reality that you CAN have what’s in your heart and soul.

Know you can be whoever you choose to be this day. It’s a brand new day.

Marianne Williamson says it best. “I can choose strength instead of weakness and love instead of fear. I can choose to bless instead of blame and to lean into the future rather than dragging with me the past.”

How can this milestone invigorate you and your dream to live the most extraordinary life you desire?

If you want to spread more peace and kindness, find ways to begin that. Of course, it starts with you. Reflect upon all the ways you are that, that you share peace and kindness. Ask for guidance on how you can best be that light. You will be guided. If what you hear feels light, go for it. If it feels heavy, your ego may want recognition or paybacks. Find ways to release the need for that. What’s that pattern there for? How’s it guiding you to something Higher?

As for me, my purpose is to awaken people to a vibrant, healthy, and abundant life. It’s so in me. But, sometimes, I can be arrogant about why it’s not happening for others. So I have to step back and realize that I’m not in charge of how others find their way; I’m just to show some ways they can choose.

For instance, we just took an RV trip to Washington, DC. Bo had never been there. When we went to the Jefferson Monument, these words were inscribed on the wall. These words brought up lots of feelings for me. First, the rage of the Supreme Court saying they are to live by the words in the 1600s or whatever. It brought the joy of the importance to keep growing and becoming. It showed me how to speak up for our beliefs, which shines a light on others. Not that they have to follow your way, but be committed to who you are and what’s TRUE for you.


Then tears came to my eyes when I saw how much the destruction of the Capitol was.

How YES, I must continue my work to be a beacon of light and hope for others living in darkness.

How can this word, this idea of Resurrection, reconnect you to the passion and power of who you are meant to be come forth and rise up inside of you?

How can you be the light?

What Does Living In Freedom Mean To You?

Everyone is trying to become free. Free to express who you are.

Free to be you.
Free from your past.
Free from your monkey mind.
Free from living from others’ expectations and rules.

If you felt free today, how would your day go? Your life?

Think of the many ways you are living small.

Afraid to be flamboyant.
Afraid to be joyous and alive, bouncing around like the kid you were.
Afraid that others might say you are arrogant too much.

What if you are totally free and just loving life?

Release limiting beliefs. Be who you are. Because that is what the journey of life is.

Use your wisdom that you now have to think about how you were when you were in your 30s, 40s, or 50s so you can free yourself. How would that be? How can you not let those beliefs, thoughts, or voices hold you back today?

Clean them out. Give yourself a break. Let your past be teachings for today’s freedom. I could have showered myself with more gratitude and pure joy for doing what I loved. Instead, back then, I was critical that I wasn’t doing everything perfectly and I wasn’t pleasing everyone. I can just feel the freedom I would have had instead of the pressure and stress I felt. Instead, I was doing what I love by being a parent and being in education.

Become freer.

One of the fun things about being older is that sometimes you don’t care what others think.
Freeing yourself from knowing life means discovering who and what you really are.

Reflect upon the stage of life you are in right now. How can you be free?

Who are you today? Who do you want to be?

Have the courage and vulnerability to love yourself enough to express your true being.

Amazing things will happen.

As Brene Brown says, “Authenticity is a collection of choices we must make daily. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice, to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”

What new steps will you be taking to live in freedom?

Will you say “no” when you want to instead of your “yes” out of obligation or other’s expectations?

Will you take a nap just because?

Will you dance with joy because it feels fabulous?

What does living in freedom mean to you? Take steps to create that freedom so life can be lighter and easy.

You are worth it.

Being free is what this journey called life is all about.

Only you can create the freedom you desire.

What Are You Doing That Creates The Most Harmonizing For Your Health?

Every day is a good day to create something harmonizing for your health.

What does that mean for you?

What do you need TODAY? Right now.

If you are overwhelmed and stressed, you need quiet rest time.

If you are depleted, you should get some fresh air. Is that a quiet picnic, a slow walk, or putting your hands in the dirt?

Harmonizing is an important point in the equation of being healthy. Where’s the peace? Where’s the balance?

What matters to you about your health? For me, it’s about being radiant, vibrant, and able to do all I want. Not always easy, but I focus on moving myself back there.

You are supposed to feel good.

You do not necessarily feel good every moment, but the idea is to notice where you are out of harmony. Then, move closer to what you desire, even as you are hurting or out of whack.

Abraham-Hicks says, “Since nothing matters to you other than your alignment with your goals or desires, then that is where our work is. We are not here to debate the rightness or the wrongness of what you, or anyone, chooses. We are not taking sides, for or against anything. Instead, we are here to help you understand that your life can be as wonderful or horrible as you allow it to be. It all depends upon the thoughts that you practice. And therein lies the basis of anyone’s success: How much do I practice thoughts that bring me joy, and how much do I practice thoughts that bring me pain?”

You are either in or out of alignment with your desires, somewhere on the continuum.

Pay attention—your health matters.

The sad part is that most of us live more in the what we “don’t want” part of the scale. Thus, feel bad, angry, or resentful.

As John Rogers, DSS states, “If you look at life as being a ladder, you can visualize each “problem” as a rung in that ladder. If you remove the problem, you may take away your potential growth. You learn from your experiences, and often you learn more from your negative experiences than your positive experiences. Those experiences that hit at you and shake you are often the most effective areas of learning.”

Being healthy affects your life. But if it is a priority, your life can be more joyful, prosperous, and abundant.

You have a choice every day. It would help if you chose, or you will be part of the dark side of statistics.

Your health can be more like Mae Dean Era. In the March 26th Sunday Edition of The Oklahoman, there was an article about “Mae Dean Era, 79, from Blackgum, Oklahoma, that has recently passed 1,000 consecutive days doing a 5K. In addition, every single day for three years, she has run or walked at least a 5K.”

Or, it can be part of the tragic statistics in our state. According to the Oklahoman, Oklahoma ranks 43rd in the nation for quality of life and women’s safety. First, in the nation, it is a concern for the highest domestic and social violence incidents.

What are you choosing that creates the most harmonizing for your health?

Being healthy takes on new meanings for me, whether that is more the need for mental health, physical, or emotional concerns.

When Bo and I first ran the first Oklahoma Memorial Marathon, there were about 3,000 participants; now, there are over 20,000. Impressive. Lots of people choose to be physically active. We don’t run today, but we still choose to be active.

What needs your attention to be the healthiest you?

Springtime is often a time to begin again. Whether gardening, cleaning out old stuff, or starting a new exercise routine. The weather is good. There is more light. Springtime can be reinvigorating. It can motivate you to do something to be healthier.

How can you use the lightness of spring to help you reinvigorate your health?

Compassion Begins Through Your Experiences

The world needs more compassion right now. The world is divided.

Compassion can begin restoring our faith and trust in each other.

Compassion allows you to offer help and accept others where they are.

You put aside judgments.

You offer sympathy and empathy.

You are there for each other.

How can that happen? What is YOUR part?

What have you overcome?

Did you know your heart opens when you overcome something?

Review your life and note where you have “made it through” a situation you didn’t think you could or wondered whether it was possible. Like an illness, a divorce, or the loss of someone you love, even enduring a statistic class, or building a house. Think of every situation you struggled with and made it to the other side.

There is power in who you have become because of what you have overcome, even if it is a fear of something.

Think of how good that feels.

Think of how positive you feel about yourself.

Think of how strong you feel inside and out.

You can understand what others feel when you have experienced and lived through something. You can feel compassion for them and their situation.

You know the trials and tribulations of experiencing that situation.

You can value the struggle, the journey, and the accomplishment.

You can relate to others.

You set aside differences; you don’t even care.

That is why there are support groups and people of like-mindedness. So you can be there for each other. Your heart and mind are open to receiving and giving the gift of compassion.

Compassion opens new worlds for you and others.

Most people don’t realize the power of all they have overcome. They haven’t seen how to serve others or connect with the world more—even their own families.

Compassion is the key to being there for others.

Experts say one of our greatest needs is to be connected to others and be in relationships.

Compassion improves health and well-being. We can all use more of it – individually and collectively.

Use your experiences to help heal you and others.

The world needs more of you so more hearts can open.

How Abundant Are You?

You live in an expanding Universe.

Being aware is one of the most prosperous things you can do. It opens you up to a whole new world of possibilities.

Notice if you are living on autopilot, trying to get by, or tapping into the infinite Universe.

Are you living more from possibilities or limitations? I have so many examples of the great abundance life has given me.

I think about the jobs I’ve had and never thought possible.
I think about the houses I’d ride by and wish that SOMEDAY I could live there and have.
I think about traveling the world and couldn’t have imagined visiting every continent.
I think about the beauty and peace I have in my life now rather than thinking I had to push hard for everything.

Allow yourself to believe in abundance. In the goodness of life and all, it has to offer you if you tap into it.

As my Course of Miracles, lessons remind me – where are my grievances hiding the light of the world from me? In other words, are you looking at the lack rather than the blessings and abundance in your life?

Through Bo and my travels of the world, abundance is always a conversation we have. We notice the housing, food, and living conditions. Did you know that “around 60 percent of the world’s population — 4.5 billion people — either have no toilet at home or one that doesn’t safely manage human waste?”

Many people think abundance is only about money. But, yes, money can be one form of abundance.

Expand your thinking.

Abundance comes in lots of ways. So much is trying to happen for you.

Think about times you were enthusiastic about something that happened for you.
Noticed who smiled at you today or complimented you.

Look at the abundance of goals you’ve achieved. Then, look back at your life and see how blessed you are. What are those blessings of abundance you received? Prayers, good health, degrees, family, or work?

Are you affirming those blessings each day, all day? Or, are you like most people and focus on what’s lacking?

Change your thinking, and change your life.

What part of your life have you been most prosperous?

Maybe you worked at a nonprofit and thought you needed more abundance. But how about the abundance of service you offered and the lives you touched?
Maybe you are someone who made millions and felt lacking in relationships. But did that allow you a lot of freedom or material wealth that seemed important at the time?

As John Rogers, DSS says, “Our life reveals to us what we have to learn next — not to reveal our failures to us, but to reveal to us where we lacked preparation, where we weren’t thoroughly up on what was going on. So realize there are valuable lessons to be learned from and in the “games” of the world – and if you were not still in the process of learning and growing, you would no longer be here in a physical body.”

What’s the next step for you?

How could being focused help you with being more abundant?

Check out ways you are stopping the flow of abundance coming to you.
Notice your beliefs and the words you choose to describe your situation. You are abundantly blessed. You are resourced.
Pay attention to where you focus – more on the blessings in your life or what’s lacking? Nothing wrong with noticing, but it’s the story and beliefs about where you are that keep you there.

Ask yourself – what creates the most abundance for me today? Follow what you hear.

It’s tricky, even hard to change. That’s why programs like Lorie Ladd’s 21-day Align are good to be connected to. They help remind you day after day about what is really going on. They highlight your resistance and what might be holding you back.

If you don’t put structures in your life, you stay where you are. Good or good. But you are missing out on a whole new world of abundance. Just like Bo and I decided after our South American/Antarctica trip, we would like to learn Spanish. So we signed up for Duolingo. So far, it’s been fun. I have reminders on my phone. Having the reminders in my phone alerts us to take the time. We remind each other to ensure we’ve done our lesson for the day. Right now, it’s fun, so we are encouraged. We have each other to share it with. Find out what you need to make any shift in your life to have a more abundant life.

What you focus on, you receive more of.

Is that abundance or scarcity for you?

What do you want more of in your life that you could have by changing how you look at abundance?

How Gentle Are You With Yourself?

The world needs gentleness and kindness and more of it. And it all begins with you.

As you live each day, how would you say you interact with yourself – more with gentleness and forgiveness or more with judgment and putting down?

It all begins with you.
It all begins with you.

Think about a conversation you had recently where you disagreed with someone. Were you gentle with yourself afterward?

When you make a mistake, notice the conversation in your head. Could you be more gentle and love yourself unconditionally?

Loving yourself will help dissolve some stress and tension. Just feel how good it feels when you applaud yourself or honor yourself. There is this joy inside of you. Probably a smile on your face. Your body relaxes. It feels good inside and out.

As you think about your daily interactions, do you flow and allow life to be? Or are you more like pushing and rushing your way through the day? Notice how you can slow down and be more present. Try being more in the moment, knowing all will work out.

How you can slow down and be more present

Where are you on the spectrum of loving yourself and accepting who you are?

Do you feel like you have to be strong? Are you afraid to admit to being sick? Feeling weak? Being vulnerable? Think back to a time you were sick. Did you rest and allow yourself to heal, or was the conversation more like I don’t have time for this?

Notice how you are honoring yourself. Are you valuing yourself and listening to what you hear? Do you discount the words and think you know best? At different times I was pushing through many things and kept telling myself to slow down and suddenly became ill because I didn’t listen. So I had to slow down. Colds come when there is a lot of chaos.

How can you be more gentle with yourself, so you don’t need illness? Think of the role illness plays in your life. Could you ask for what you need rather than stuff down what’s true for you? Like I need you to be there for me, I need some help.

Could being more authentic help you be more gentle and kind to yourself? Could you say “NO” when you want rather than think you need to please others and say “Yes”?

Where are you powering through things? Take notice. Think about how you can be more gentle. Can you ask your heart and inner wisdom for guidance? Your answers will come from a different place than your mind. There are unlimited possibilities.

As you assess how you feel, can you bring more compassion and love to the situation rather than thinking it’s wrong to have this illness or that feeling?

Wherever you are, it is. Be gentle, kind, and loving to yourself. I never thought about being compassionate when I was ill. I wanted it over. It was in my way. What if you could honor its purpose instead and wonder what’s here for you now? Be curious, knowing it is playing a role in your evolution.

In my David Hawkins book, “Along the Path to Enlightenment,” for March 3rd, “It is important to know that spiritual research indicates that all suffering and emotional pain result from resistance. Its cure is via surrender and acceptance, which relieve the pain.” How can this be helpful for you?

How can you heal some of your physical and mental pains by letting go of the resistance you are holding? 1% letting go of some of the opposition, 1% willingness to be more gentle to yourself by allowing whatever is.

Where can you begin changing how you treat yourself verbally or physically, so there is more compassion and kindness?

Notice how being gentle with yourself can change and soften how life is for you.

Where is gentleness needed for you?